So hey guys, I've been married for 7 years and have a son who is 1, it's been rough since the first year of marriage and been threw a storm of lies and self interest. I had always been the shy and humble guy who never stood up for myself. Call it lack of experience but I guess you could say I was whipped and didn't know any better. I found out horrible things about my wife and her past that wasn't brought up but lied about. That was the beginning of a end I think, the other factors are seriously bad attitude towards life and major money problems. lets just say in 7 years of marriage Ive had to deal with about $20,000 in over draft and penalties because of my spouse. All of these things combined trust was blown out of the window. I tried to tell her many times through our marriage I was not happy with the way things are going and wished to get a divorce if things didn't shape up. Well I never really put my foot down, then being married after 6 years I finally had enough, she just didn't care how I felt and didn't care to change her ways, I felt trapped and lonely and I did the unthinkable, an affair was something I thought would never be in my future as a kid growing up. I felt horrible but I knew if I resorted to a change so drastic I need to get out of the relationship. I eventually ended the affair and told her and I wanted to hurt her the way she hurt me. It wasn't fair for me to do that but I believe in my heart the marriage is over, when my wife got pregnant with my son I thought that would be enough to change her, that was the single worst mistake I had made to think a child would change her. My son is slightly over a year old and I believe things are not right and never will be, problem is I don't think my wife is completely mature enough to handle life by herself, she has been depending and using me the whole time. What do I do? My son comes first and I don't want him to grow up in a environment where parents aren't happy. The decision is a hard one but I think I need to go through with a divorce, I think I have waited long enough for change and I hate to see my life be utterly wasted and battling the uncertain, my dad once told me some people burn all their bridges before they realize it and I feel so exactly fitting of that statement. Advice please?
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