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Has anyone gone through this? Last night I had s dream that my stbx ad I had fixed all our issues and I was so happy again. It seemed so real, and then I woke up this morning to my reality and became so sad and depressed. I think my dream is a sign that I am not being strong enough or have not fully accepted that it is over. I am moving tomorrow and maybe being out of there I will get better. I have my good days and my bad. Thinking that she is out and being social and not feeling the pain that I am gets me so upset. I hope I dont continue having dreams like that. I feel that I have taken some steps back in my recovery.
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Shape of things to come ?

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Dreams are the worst. I have not had one about getting back together, but mine last night was horrible. He came to see me and was loving and I thought we would get back together then he turned into evil him and told me I was crazy and how much in love he as with the other woman. My family ended up having me committed to a mental institution because they feared for my well being. I lost everything and everyone thought I was crazy. I woke up really upset. I hate dreams.
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I have not had dreams of getting back together, I have had dreams that the OW comes to my house and tries to kill me.
TSand
TSand
I have to be honest. I have been using tylenol pm for a month or so. I actually got the sleep part of it without the tylenol, but I don't want to wake up at 3:30 in the morning, gripped in panic and fear. I need to sleep. I know that my stbx is suffering to some degree as well, but she can talk about that with her boyfriend while I am here with the kids.
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I'm not sure but even after all this pain and emotional suffering I think if she wanted to work it out and really seemed sincere I might consider making it work. I guess I am being weak and need to see that it really is over. I know she would never want to work out it with me, and deep down I know that I am better off. I just miss having someone I guess.
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Yeah, I have had that dream and others. I don't think it is a sign of weakness. It is a sign that you are a good person who wants peace, happiness and a life that makes sense, and your mind is struggling with the craziness of the situation.

I suppose there are going to be backslides in our recovery, but I don't like it. UGH

Sorry, regain you momentum and strength. You are going to be okay.
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been there dude done that

I would wake up and run through the house looking for my family that wasn't there anymore.

It would take me a few moments before the reality of what went on would sink in. all I can say is that your dreams are a deep reflection of what's going on inside your head all day long.
Do your best in focusing on positives through out the day and those dreams should subside. At least they did for me. I rarely have them. But on occasion I still do.

that's when I have to examine my thoughts and self talk through out the day
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