I am looking for a bit of advice for those who have been/going through a seperation or a divorce. I have been married for 16+ years and have 4 children. Our marriage has always been full of conflict and we have gone to some types of councelilng through our church. However, our insurance doesnt cover "professional" counseling and Im not even sure if it would work. Not to be a blaming individual, but each time we get into an arguement, I mean ANY arguement it seems, he threatens to leave me, but never does. He is usually very distant from me physcially and emotionally, rarely sharing an intimate moment. Divorce goes against everything I believe in and it breaks my heart to rip apart my family. I have desided I want a divorce. I dont want to try and work it out anymore. I dont trust him with my feelings or my emotions. They always come back as a weapon used agasints me, even if I confide in him with something that has aboslutely nothign to do with US. (I had a falling out with a friend of mine recently, and he was very kind about letting me vent, then in the next arugment, he threw it in my face and used it as a weapon saying really horrible things!) We have no money for a lawyer at the moment, and are in debt. I do not like the idea of moving in with my parents as my parents relationship isnt very good either. (My father is an alcoholic and is either at teh bar or in bed sleeping it off!) I only work part time right now, as I am at home caring for my kids. We want to be as aimable as possible for the kids sake. I think we can get through this without it turning ugly. Is this possible? Any advise would be appreciated! Thanks!
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