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Don't know why I do it??!!

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My husband has not yet moved out yet, but is living the single life. He decided to go to his best friends house last night, which is my kids god father as well. Before he left last night he kissed the girls goodbye and then kissed me on the cheek. He came home today and got into the shower. And I know I shouldn't do it, but I looked into his phone. He apparently texted a girl named "Missy" and asked her if she was going to meet him at his friends house. I am sick to my stomach now and want to call him out on it. The best friend I want to call and tell him he is worthless as well. I asked my husband what he did last night and he said drank to much, got sick and passed out. Then he asked why? I didn't answer. So why is he kissing my cheek and then leaving here and texting other woman? He still crawls into my bed everynight and I screwed up yesterday morning and had sex with him. I know trust me I feel guilty for doing it. So I feel cheated now by my husband and my kids godparents!
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I'm so sorry for your pain today. You are in a tough place still living with him. It sounds like you have your hopes up and are setting yourself up to be hurt again. Is there any way you can make him move out sooner so you aren't exposed to him as much? Good luck.
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mixed messages are the worst and thats what he's sending you with his behavior. This makes it harder for your heart and mind to find a common ground. The real question you need to ask yourself is, don't you deserve better than this? I think you do! I'm so sorry you are going through this and I too have dealt with a husband who says the marriage is over and then sends mixed messages with his behavior. Decide for yourself what you want, seek it...and if you can't get it, its time to move on. I have learned the hard way that despite the best of efforts and all the devotion in the world...a marriage can't work when only one person works at it.
Hugs to you...
Thriver
Thriver
Don't feel guilty for having sex with your H, but do try not to as you are being exposed to germs.
It sucks that they are helping him. Get him out ASAP.
deleted_user
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every similar story here.
I also felt physically ill when I snooped into his emails and found out he's been trying to get another girl going.
I am so sorry. It hurts.
Only confront him if you think you can handle the truth.
deleted_user
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I am doing my best to get him out. Every place he looks at he finds something wong with it. It is either no off street parking, he wouldn't feel comfortable or it is to dirty. It breaks my heart that he is doing this to me and I take it. I know I don't deserve it and he tells me that all the time, but I continue to do this to myself.
deleted_user
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Sounds like you need to take back some of your power here. Give him a deadline...whatever you feel is fair and stick to it. This way, you won't feel like you're just tossing him out with nowehre to go, but you'll be setting boundaries for yourself. Just a thought...
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Tami, I am so sorry for your pain.
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