Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have been seperated for the last 7 months. I have moved away from my husband and cut off all ties... but in some strange way I miss the security of the relationship. Now my days are spent at home alone with my two dogs in a new town with minimal family around.. I never felt soo alone in my whole life. My family has been great.. but you know they are always picking out the negative points of the break up. My friends are all wrapped up in there own emotional distress and it always seems I am helping them with there problems.. It is like my events of the last 7 months are nothing compared to the boyfriend problems... I lve helping them out but I am just emotionally tired. Some days I think I should have just forgave him of his infidelities and just continued with the marraige...but on the other hand I have too high of moral standard to allow myself to live like that. the biggest things is that I have not been single for over 6 years and I am scared..especially being in a new town. not knowing anyone. But anyways thanks to anyone that reads this I just really need to vent.. Thank you.
GeocacherNY
new friends? locally, or maybe spend some time online :) many of us here in the same boat along the same river, just various places
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Things will get better. Maybe join a church group, make new friends, possibly therapy
TSand
I find comfort in knowing that many of us are in the same boat. We are all trying to just feel whole. So much has been taken from us and sometimes it seems that all I have as a partner is the pain and sadness. I know there is no time table on feeling better but I know it will come. The last thing I want is to get into another bad relationship. I need to have one solid relationship...with myself.
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There is nothing more frustrating than being in a marriage that does not feel right, or that you know your spouse has been or is unfaithful. As far as being alone, I hear you, it is so very difficult. But I have managed to say to myself that I have a place to go, I can do what I want, when I want. I decided to join the library, ok so that will probably not meet all of my social needs, but it was another place to go. If you think positive and say when you are alone, you are being with yourself not by yourself, sometimes the way that you interpret things can mean all the difference. Try and develop an interest. Ok so noone wants to go to a movie alone, why not try it? Think about how much pleasure that you are going to get out of it, force yourself to do it and then rate your pleasure, if it is worth it, do it again. Keep your mind occupied. We can all attest that we have spent many nights home alone and alot of nights on this site, well its called therapy, and while you are typing and responding to others or journaling, that is less time to sit and think about being without him. Keep busy, you will meet people and if not right away, enjoy spending time with yourself.
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When nobody is interested, aloneness is the only path available. Online if you don't look like, or are, a celebrity or model, forget it. Time passes but nothing changes.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
