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DOn't know what to do!

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I have been getting hit with one thing after another and I just can't get my bearings. He asked for a divorce, I have found out my husband was leading a life I knew nothing about, and everyone is just sure there is someone else. He emailed me last night and wants to do all of the bills himself now, he says he will give me money for food and gas and whatnot.. I have done the bills for the last 16 years, I am having a hard time just letting him have that control. I don't work and am a stay at home mom, and I will be requesting alimony. I am wondering what I should ask for in the extras moneys. I don't want anything to hurt me at this point. I am starting to question averything I do! Should I talk to a lawer? He says he wants to do this himself, but I feel like i would be better off with a lawer on my side, I feel bad though making him pay for it in the end. What do you think?
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I think both of your lifestyles will suffer for the worst for a time. You will both have to make an effort to make up the loss. In the end, that is what it will be.
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I'd consult an attorney. I know that sucks and costs money but I think it's essential from what I read.
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YES Contact a lawyer. Do not give him the bills. tell him you will have your lawyer contact him later this week.
It is very important to take care of yourself in everyway including financially and legally. dont do anything without talking to an attorney.
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yikes i go to my lawyer today. she gave me a huge check list of living expenses. some i would of never thought of. google your state and alimony and see what it says. i was used to a budget and was okay with that and my lawyer said i didnt want him in control like that. you need control of the budget. there are some great books and sites on web.
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definately go see a lawyer!!!!
don't hesitate, call and see one TODAY!!
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Go see a lawyer. Every state is different and you need to understand your rights, and his, so that you can both make informed decisions. You may still be able to agree to everything without going to court and can just use the lawyers to make sure you are both covered. Good luck!
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DO NOT at this point let him pay the bills, keep doing what your doing, don't change anything, and when it comes time, get a lawyer. see there has been a big change in this man. keep things the way they are right now because that is what you know, don't let anyone bully you into changing anything until you have time to absorb this and not be making decisions based on emotion. hang in there, keep coming here. we'll help all we can.
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Take it from experience, get a lawyer, my stbx was wanting it all to go quietly and so was I, but I talked to a lawyer and she opened my eyes. If I wouldn't have gotten a lawyer, I honestly do not know where I would be other than the streets. As much as he was wanting to be fair it was all a front, he wanted everything to be fair...for him.
Please go see a lawyer.
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Call an attorney for a consultation . . . explain your situation and see what he says.
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