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I want to know some of your thoughts on this, because I just keep getting more confused the more I think of it.

He dumped me, yet he still keeps in touch. He goes out of his way to show me he's not with any one else, he says I'm still his best friend, blah blah blah.He says he's still loyal to me, everything between us is the same, but doesn't verbally want to make that commitment.

Am I stupid? Should I take this as a commitment? I'm not getting this at all. I guess my light bulb burnt out. Help me replace it please. lol.
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Sounds like he's playing the field, and he's keeping you in his pocket, so to speak.

You're a sure thing. And until he finds another sure thing, he's going to keep you baited.

Don't fall for it.
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Can you explain "everything between us is the same"? If he dumped you then is he still around taking you out?

If "everything the same" and he won't commit, ask yourself do you want to just date this man or so you need it to be "going somewhere". If you can answer that question then you know weather it's worth it.
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Hey ABorden, this is the second time I followed you in a discussion and I am going to say the same thing... ABorden is right. I hate to say it, but us guys are often very shallow and can be easily influence by another body part. This may not be the case but keep your eyes open. Give it time. If his intentions are honourable, they will still be honourable in a couple weeks. Good luck.
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Thank you!! I've never even thought of that, because he calls me at his lunch break and every time he gets a spare moment he's right there. That's what has me so baffled as to what's going on.

Thank you.
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Everything is there except the intimacy, so it's not exactly the same. I just got off of the phone with him again. I'm just so lost. I feel like a dog chasing my own tail. lol.
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