Wish i knew, I still get those waves of sadnes at least every other day. Hopeing it fades to nothing or at least nearly nothing.

It has been 7 months, and some days are better than others. Some days I feel free, others I wish I could just fade away.

It does subside but it can come up at the weirdest times. I've been dealing for about a year and a half and emotions come up when I least expect them but I'm much more able to handle them and they leave quickly.

Yes, it does end

sure it does, one day, suddenly, *poof* ? or maybe it just fizzles slowly. unless you don't want it to end, then you can keep it alive

I have been going through this for 11 months and I have some really good days but I know exactly what you mean. Other days I feel like it just happened to me. I have to believe it will get better or I would go totally insane.

Ten months after the divorce, I still think about it most daily. I've become somewhat numb to it but it's still looming there, waiting to take me down if I let it. Some days, it gets the best of me; other days, I'm able to look ahead and know that what happened was for the best even though it still hurts.

If you find out, let me know.

It's only been three weeks for me...but, I have been asking the same question. I can't take much more of this, It's just so hard.

Do you remember falling off your bike when you were a kid?

Part of your past will remain just that....memory. Don't combine the pain with the memory.

The pain fades when its over and you go about your business.

yeap, and once you meet someone knew, the pain will pass entirely.

It happened to me so many times in the past, that by the time I did really fall for someone again, get remarried, and all that, I was always "prepared" in my mind for it to eventually happen again, and it eventually did, so now I'm just at that point where I try not to let myself get that close to anyone anymore, thinking in my mind that I'll never find someone who can accept only me for who I am.

basically, when it happened again, I remembered how rough it was the first time, being alone, so even though the 2nd wife is doing the same things the first wife did, I am reluctant to get a divorce, to be honest, because I get tired of finding someone, breaking up, finding someone else, breaking up, just seems to be an endless cycle, which makes me feel bitter in my mind sometimes. I try not to let that happen, but inside I know its there.

The memories will always be there but the pain does go away eventually! I still remember the sad times of my first divorce, but they don't hurt anymore! I'm on my second divorce now, its been a year since I found out my STBX was seeing someone else! I was a wreck at first, couldn't work, sleep, think straight. I'm stronger now and the pain comes and goes, but I can control it better now. Before something would set me off and I would have a bad day, now if I have a bad moment it only last a little bit and i'm over it. Hang in there!

Well, I'm about a year and a bit separated / divorced from my husband. I think my healing would be further along if other LIFE problems and events hadn't of cropped up.

I don't know if I'd ever want to remarry, as I'd be so afraid of being in pain like this again.

I still think about him every day, but for less time and with less intensity.

I just have to keep faith that I will heal and it won't hurt forever.

The pain hasn't ended for me, I can't even push it to the back of my mind yet. Why do we persist in feeling so bad? My ex treated me terribly and I am stunned that I still feel bad, he hasn't felt badly one day. I see a therapist and she tells me we need to reframe this in my mind, I am driving myself craxy. If I learn how to do this I will tell ya"ll!

It does seem like it's going to last forever. I've only been seperated for 3 months, he wants to go ahead with the divorce, but I'm not ready. Not sure if you have kids are not?, I do and I think that makes it harder. Sometimes, I don't know how much more I can take, but I look at them, and just know-I have to be strong for them, and tell them it will get better. I still love him with all my heart and right now I think I always will. I hope the feelings don't last forever, cause I sure don't want to spend the rest of my life like this.