you learn to move on. you learn that there are others there that will see the beautiful things about you and though you may not see it now, you will fidn someone you love. whether that is with who your with when things get figured out. or whether it be with someone else.

Good question, Alex. I'm laying bets that it will go away, otherwise we've learned nothing through this whole mess, and that would be the saddest thing of all. You'll be ok, I'll be ok, I promise!!

That feeling does go away.. it just takes time. You will get through this just as many before and sadly many after will too.

I agree with everyone else. We all know your pain, but it WILL ease. For a while, it hurt so bad I nearly had to TELL myself to breathe. I wish I could say something more. The old cliches are still true. Time heals all wounds. (((HUG)))

todd you are so right on the money, there were times when i had to tell myself to go to sleep cause when i woke up my life couldn't get worse. it felt like my heart was going to give out and i should just give up. I've done and experienced so much since then and i've really found something more in it. I still struggle but for reasons other than because of my separation.

YES! Mine is fairly well faded, it seemed to take forever though. What I am left with is huge trust issues. For a while I was doing quite a bit of dating, but realized I had such trust issues I had to stop. I'm sure that too will fade with time.

I also had to learn that sometimes being angry fuels the pain. The process isn't the same for everyone, nor is the time span. My therapist says a year of healing for every five you were together, as a general rule of thumb. She quantified that by saying a year for every five after everything is totally over.

alex, your making progress. hang in there, i think you'll probably always love your H. but it will hopefully be put away in a place in your heart. and you have to go through this to get where your life is meant to be. a better life. hang in there.

Oh alex, I know for me it is so much better than almost 3 months ago. it does get better

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FKQKM8sHOzA

As time goes on the memories fade and one day it just doesn't matter about them anymore. This of course doesn't help right now, we want relief NOW. I play cd's my Jel Osteen, and Zig Ziggler. As long as I'm in this discomfort I may as well learn something about myself.