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Does the honeymoon always have to be over

sundance1958
sundance1958
I am sitting here wondering if there is anybody out there that does not believe the honeymoon should always be over just because you have been together for any length of time. Oh I know it changes and that is certainly normal but why do people change so much down the line .I am not talking years and years together but it seems like when the honeymoon period is over so is the relationship you thought you would have with the person you thought you knew. But you find out what you thought the person would be like would be the same but they changed completely. Is that normal once you have a few years under your belt.This is my second marriage and I thought this person was solid and I now am finding he is not. It was him who wanted to marry so much and he convinced me how he would always love me never treat me badly or lie. Why does the good have to change. Anybody know?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes, the honeymoon always ends and reality sets in. Always!
deleted_user
deleted_user
...thats when people either divorce or become soulmates.
deleted_user
deleted_user
If you find the answer to these questions I would love to know!
Yes, the honeymoon ends! In a perfect world it would not, however, we do not live in a perfect world! When the honeymoon ends, you should be in a comfortable and secure state. That does not always happen either! That is when in my case the abuse starts! This is not only in marriages, but also in the long term relationships...
Best wishes to you and big hugs!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Honeymoon ends and the intense feelings mellow. The monoty of life sinks and over time the challenges come. Knowing if your spouse has staying power is a matter of respect and values. I for one will look for a relationship in the future that provides evidence of this. I will look at his family history, his role models, how he handles conflicts, how he makes and keeps friends, how he handles people who wrong him, can he forgive, how he handles himself around other women. And make my best determnation. I will also pray that God will send me something healthy. It's the best I can do.
deleted_user
deleted_user
thats the problem, i think. when the "honeymoon" phase is over the relationship changes so many times I think (in my case at least) someone grows sick of trying to keep the relationship fresh and bails.
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