My husband and I were married at ages 18(me) and 20(him). Even before the wedding I noticed he was acting irresponsibly (staying up till 5am playing Halo video games, not keeping his promises, etc.) For some reason, though, I assumed that all this would get better after we got married (dumb I know). Obviously, things haven't gotten better. He still plays Halo every single day for hours (at least 2 or 3, but sometimes up to 5 or 6 hours at a time), and if he's not playing Halo at home, he's out drinking with his buddies....I feel (and have told him this countless times) that he acts as if he wants to be single, and that he doesn't respect me, and that he isn't ready to be a husband. He always lies to me about when he'll be home, and goes off to get drunk with his friends, not answering his phone, or if he does answer, he'll lie again and say "I'm coming home right now.", but two hours later still no husband...Every time I've talked to him about all of this, he acts like he's so surprised that I think he's not being a good husband, and he makes me feel like I'm being controlling and unreasonable. But the few times I have threatened to leave, he has said that he would try to change....everything is great for a week or two, and then he reverts back into his old habits. I just feel like he really doesn't care about this relationship, despite the fact that he insists he does...I feel like he will never change! Is there any hope of him changing his ways??? Last night I told him I wanted to be separated and he looked so shocked and then got mad...today is the first day of our separation....How will I know if he really cares and wants to have a good marriage, or if he's just putting on an act to get me back where he wants me??? Am I just overreacting?
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