Do you think it is helpful to all encompasing label or lump all divorces into one? Meaning I have seen the same old Leaver/Leavee threads over and over. I think each and every divorce is so unique and individual that you can not come on a support site and label everyone on here. I think it is more helpful to post about your own personal situation and ask..do you think my spouse is like this (etc) Instead of saying do you think all people who did this is like this. I was the one who asked for the divorce in my marriage and I get pretty frustrated with having to defend myself for it. I am not a betrayer, I am not selfish, I put everything I had into my marriage. I dont think anoyone on this site would feel comfortable if I posted a thread that said...everyone who was left deserved it. anymore then I enjoy hearing everyone who leaves are betrayers. we are all individual and labeling does not help anyone heal grow or get better. I am pretty sad that there are people on this site that think ALL leavers are selfish, betrayers and gave up. Sometimes the person did all they could, and put all the effort they could into it before thier hearts were so broken that they could no longer be mended. It is just my suggestion that the best eay o make sense of your divorce and heal is not to post about ALL people are this...but ask this is my situation, what do you all think.
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