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Does crying help?

enfieldguy
enfieldguy
Not being an emotional person, one of the reasons I'm separated, I now find myself crying quite often. I just cried for like 20 minutes, last night for 1/2 hour and last week on Sunday, Tuesday and Wednesday or something like that.

I hate the feeling, hate it. I've cried more in the last month than I have in 10 years and I don't want to be one of those people who cries all the time. I've read stories on here about people who cry every night, I would hate to do that but it seems I can't control it.

Does it help? Can it help you move forward?
deleted_user
deleted_user
It does help.
Especially if you've got a lot of stuff bottled up.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes, crying is good...otherwise those feelings would stay traped in you and would show up some other way...trust your mind and body, it need the release. It's ok to cry...here's a tissue, we with you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Cry until u have no more tears, and then move on.
TSand
TSand
When my sbtx first sprung this all on me I cried all the time. Now I don't unless I see her and she is not much into that and neither am I. I often wish I was crying more. It may very well stop soon.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Definitely helps release the pain that you are holding on to. Its not very encouraging but I have felt better after just letting it all out.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes it can definetly help. It just helps release so many of the emotions that deep inside of us. You need to feel, it is so much what living is about. You have something so hard that you are going through, you need to feel it and then let things go.
keepthehope
keepthehope
Crying is a release. It is a way to cleasne your soul. I have cried buckets. It does lessen. Let it take its course.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I allow myself one good cry a day and it helps in a lot of ways. It is not good to keep all that emotion within. When you let it all out I feel so much better. So cry, cry, cry!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I cried alot I mean alot. It does help.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hell yes! I had people telling me that I was going to make myself sick by crying so much the first 4 months, but everyone has their own time frame. And our feelings are NOT up for debate or on a time table. If it takes you 6 months or a year, it just does. Don't let anyone make you feel like you're not normal- you are........
deleted_user
deleted_user
I was quite worried about my crying too. I managed to keep it hidden for the most part. for the first 6 months after my relocation...on the way home from work I would find a side road to pull over and sit and cry. This once cop never failed to find me. The first time I just said "I'm having a bad day" and he said he'd sit in his car behind me until I felt I could go on with my commute. Then he'd find me on a regular basis and just say "another bad day huh?, and he'd sit in his squad car behind me while I boo hoo'd. I don't do it anymore, but this officer...always waves to me now!

I'm going to get him a Starbuck's gift card for the holidays, for being so nice to me!
deleted_user
deleted_user
What about if you never cry? I do not think my stbx has cried even once about the end of our our 24 year marriage- now that is sick
deleted_user
deleted_user
A punching bag is better.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Crying is such stress reliever. I have cried just going up the stairs where I will fall upon a stair and continue crying. I have cried in the shower, all out BAWLED! I have cried so hard I had to scream into my blanket. But afterwards, I have noticed I can think better and I take control...I feel a whole lot better! It's OK to cry, we are here for you! ALWAYS!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yep crying helps.
I wish sometimes that I could cry more and ease this ache.
let it out.
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