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I sometimes wonder if our ex's that hurt us so badly are doing it because they think that if they do really terrible hurtful things,we will be able to hate them.
I sometimes think that they somehow believe that if we hate them,it will be easier for us to move on.
I know it sounds foolish.Especially because our pain makes it 10 times worse.We have to cope with the pain and anguish of their actions plus the pain and anguish of the end of what we hoped for and dreamed of with them in our lives.
I just think that sometimes someone thinks that they are making something easier by being an ass.They think that they are making some kind of a sacrifice for us.Dumb asses.
I sometimes think that they somehow believe that if we hate them,it will be easier for us to move on.
I know it sounds foolish.Especially because our pain makes it 10 times worse.We have to cope with the pain and anguish of their actions plus the pain and anguish of the end of what we hoped for and dreamed of with them in our lives.
I just think that sometimes someone thinks that they are making something easier by being an ass.They think that they are making some kind of a sacrifice for us.Dumb asses.
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The first thing I read when I googled up divorce sites last year I didn't understand for a few months. Someone was saying their stbx made him pay for this, pay for that, more and more. He said that for the situation he was now in, it was Worth Every Penny. A few months later I realized, me too.
I don't know what will happen with the decree though.. if I am really paying a lot more than I should be, where is she doing to get the difference?
Well, I had to learn to do for myself, I guess she'll have to learn how to find better/more/higher paying jobs.
He's probably right, but getting there is hard.
If the ex-is trying to make it easier on us toget over them by being a jackass-why didnt they think about our feelings before they went out and cheated and lied and deceived.
No, they're just selfish.