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Do you know anyone who reconciled?

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Maybe yourself and it didnt work, or someone else and it did or didnt work.
I have been thinking so much about this lately. I have talked to STBX about this a lot too. I know we would have to work on it, but does anyone know of any positive times that a marriage was reconciled. And how long were they separated? We have been separated for 1.5 years now. But I think everything (love) is still there and its just getting stronger despite the warnings I have been given by some posters that I may be setting myself up for heartbreak. That may be true, but the family time together is somewhat worth the heartache for me.
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My parents did three times-Even had a stupid ceremony the second time-Screwed us kids up for years-It happens-though, I just don't hurt people I love-so i doubt that loves is still there sometimes.
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I have 3 friends that reconciled, 2 many years ago. Both are in very unhappy marriages right now. They wish they divorced and started a new life. Another friend is going through it now, they are trying to work it out...not sure what they will do.
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The kids are a very good point that I am considering. My kids are pushing for it and though that is def not my reasoning (because we have been fine on our own). I think that everyone probably thinks it wont happen again and I dont want to mess my kids up anymore, but they are on cloud 9 when the 4 of us are together at games and such. I dont see it being possible to act like a family and NOT be together though. Wow, my own writing made me realize how confused I am.
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Err! I posted and lost connection! OK, let's try this again.
I know of THREE couples that reconciled AFTER divorce final. One lasted another year, the other, about ten years. Two were due to infidelity, one just marital neglect, which ended because of infidelity. One is still kind of together but he's trying to leave her for like 6 months but can't...
Now, if you do reconcile, I strongly recommend first:
Counseling. As a couple and individually.
Counseling for the family. Don't move back intogether as a couple until at least you know why the marriage broke down the first place and how to fix it.
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Before you do that , take a walk down memory lane and remember why you separated in the first place. Time does heal and lets you forget and while everything seems so good right now It could very well turn into what it was before.

Each relationship is different and with you it may work depending on how much BOTH of you are willing to do to make it work and what you are willing to go through to make it work. Is it worth it to both of you?
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You do sound confused. I only know of one couple that reconciled and are still happy today. It depends on why you broke up in the first place. Are those reasons dealt with? Give it time. You've been living like this for 1.5 years. I asume you are not living in the same house. So, why not just consider dating for a while. See what happens, see whats around the corner. If it was meant to be it will be.
I'm rooting for you!!
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I have a friend. she and her husband divorced and remained that way for many years. But, they later re-married and appear to be very happy with each other. So, it does happen. While other posters are warning you against future heartache, you need to do what is right for you.
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I believe that God can restore broken relationships. Have your tried Rejoice Ministries. They have stories of hundreds of restored marriages. Good luck.
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I have been seperated for eight months, with no communication on her part. There is no more love there, on her part.

In my opinion, seperations are just trial divorces. I hope your situation is different.

I have never seen a seperated couple get back together, but my therapist says it happens all the time, after the divorce is finalized.
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I don't know if they happen that often,but i am hoping it can happen to me although we are still living together for the sake of the kids
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Yup, X's dad and step mom got divorced after 20 years married. Got back together a year later and are still together. They want to get married again!

It happens. I hope you do what's right for you and your family.
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Thank you all. I like hearing the positive sides, but need to hear the negatives as well. Our separation was quick, a lot of left over feelings. From my end I have worked on everything that was a concern. I just need to see if he has worked on anything. The worst part is that in the beginning I didnt know how I would live without him, now I'm wondering what it would be like to live with him again. I just pray to god, it works out the way it should, either way.
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I did. we never seperated. but I forgave, and fought, and forgave, and fought. now everything seems to be ok, but i still have trust issues and shit like that. it is kind of hard to do, but i felt that i have time invested, and we have kids, and i am not ready to give in
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