Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Closure. I would love to get some closure. When I married my husband he could never tell a lie and when he tried (surprise B'day) he was never good at it. Now he wanted out so he had to have consulted with very devious and cunning folks. Because in the publics eye he set me up so I would ask for th divorce. I did the filing. He won't even admit to the affair or affairs. I've even got phone calls from his friends trying to find out how much do I know. Then there is my 5 y/o son who tells me that "Daddy looks at naked men on the computer." My husband is a Firefighter so bisexuality or homosexuality might make his position uncomfortable. Whenever I have spied on him (in our married and living together days) in his internet activities it was all heterosexual stuff and some swinging type stuff. My kids are coming back from visitations with their father (pre divorce) telling me about a female named "Narda". We are in a NO FAULT DIVORCE STATE. Why can't he be a man an say "Yea I have a girlfriend get over it? Why all the secrets?
Does the truth ever come out? It's hard enough trying to deal with all this crap without any closure.
Does the truth ever come out? It's hard enough trying to deal with all this crap without any closure.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
You will probably NEVER get the whole truth. Understanding and ACCEPTING that is the road to healing! Sure, it'd be nice to have some honesty from the man you pledged your life too, but apparently he's not the same man and you're NOT going to spend the rest of your life with him.
Stop beating your head against the wall hoping that he'll come clean....THAT is out of your control. What IS in your control is YOUR behavior and YOUR attitude! Take control back, put the focus on you and your children, and begin to rebuild your life WITHOUT stbx. As soon as you find yourself thinking, "I wonder", or "What if", strike it from your mind and focus on YOU! It takes some practice and often our masochistic mind wants to wallow in pain (DON'T LET IT!).
It WILL get better, day by day. Hang in there :)
No one is perfect.It's hard to look at yourself and face your imperfections but doing so will bring you all you need.
No answers from the ex are needed only desired.Besides each answer brings with it 10 more questions.Better to face the future with your own honesty.You've got a real chance there.
I figured that "things" were happening...Having my son Tell me about a Party for the "bookkeeper/whore" just gave me another couple of days of Anger to deal with.
I really didn't need that. I didn't want that.
Accepting that something is just Done is less painful.
The truth (aka. why he felt he needed ot move on) would be nice if he offered it, but there is no point beating your head against a wall trying to get it, its holding you back from moving forward. Once you start building a new future for yourself, the questions about the past will become irrelevant.
Just take all the good memories with you, and leave the rest where they belong...the past.