Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
My boyfriend of 7 years left me in January of this year. It came as a real suprise to me, but he claims that he had been telling me for a long time that he couldn't take my depression anymore. I'm Bi-Polar and lost both of my parents w/in 2 months of each other which sent me into a downward spiral. I don't remember alot of things from that time due to overmedication and lots of other things,etc. but it became so bad that I went to the doctor one day and came home to find him with his stuff packed and gone the next day. Just like that. He claimed that after 6 months we would try it again. Well, it's November and he has since bought a house in another state and has told me that we can be friends but we'll never be lovers again. I just can't believe this. I still love him so much. I don't understand how you can leave someone you claim to love and not look back. I've done everything that he's asked of me and still he refuses to consider us getting back together. I can't let go. I think of him constantly, I dream about him and the thought of even touching another man makes me ill. I love him. My question is: how do you get over someone you still love when they don't love you. We have remained "friends" but it's killing me inside. He's the type of man who won't be long without a woman and then I know I'll die inside. Any suggestions on how to convert a love relationship to a friendship and be happy for him or do I just stay miserable/suicidal? Any thoughts? Please!
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
If there really is no chance of you guys getting back together, my advice is to NOT be friends with him. The less you see and hear of him the sooner you will be able to heal and move on. That is not to say that one day, when you are completely over him, you guys could start a friendship.
I am sorry for your pain and you are not alone in this.
As for feeling suicidal, I was too at the beginning. I am now very glad that I did not "do it" and now feel that I have other reasons for living, not just him.
I think you should look up the local suicide prevention number and write it on sticky notes. Call them if you are feeling very desperate. Trust me on this, it is not worth it. You will get through this and you will be ok. You need to take care of yourself now.
You take the good, you take the bad,
you take them both and there you have
The Facts of Life, the Facts of Life.
There's a time you got to go and show
You're growin' now you know about
The Facts of Life, the Facts of Life.
When the world never seems
to be livin up to your dreams
And suddenly you're finding out
the Facts of Life are all about you, you.
get a mirror, look into it, that's who counts NOW. until she's #1 in that mirror, nobody else will matter. You can't make someone love you. Take the good times, hold them dear, and go become your own person. Then when you least expect it, you'll find what you're looking for.
Live each day for yourself, you are what matters now.
You are not alone, we are all here for you.