Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I wanted to write this and ask do we really ever let go? it's been 19 months for me now. i don't feel the pain, the devestation, the desperation to know where he is or what he is doing. i do wonder but basically its in passing. so that makes me wonder, am i still holding on. i think i'm holding on the memories of loving him but it doesn't hurt. i'm a little lonely now and then, but i don't really think of him all of those times. i hope someday i'll have someone in my life, but that doesn't bring him to mind.
my point i guess is for all of you that call, e-mail, text, look at myspace and facebook are not letting go. it took me the no contact root. i know this is repeated time after time, but for some of us and some of you it will be the only way. you torture yourselves and your hearts when you put yourself in a postition of contant rejection.
my sister is a very wise woman, and neither of us have been in healthy relationships. she was harsh with me, she asked, does he call? does he e-mail? i said, no. she said what does that tell you. in facing the truth, it means he does not care about me, he does not love me, he does not want to know about me. at first of course i was devestated, but now, i'm ok. it's truly his loss of a wonderful woman. i hope and wish for all of you that you can make it to this point. please, focus on yourself. stop focusing on what they are doing, who they are with, relationships they are making. you may or may not ever get those answers. love yourself. the world out there is so very beautiful and full of awesome wonders, but until you accept what is going on with you, you miss out on so much. xoxoxoxox love, linda
my point i guess is for all of you that call, e-mail, text, look at myspace and facebook are not letting go. it took me the no contact root. i know this is repeated time after time, but for some of us and some of you it will be the only way. you torture yourselves and your hearts when you put yourself in a postition of contant rejection.
my sister is a very wise woman, and neither of us have been in healthy relationships. she was harsh with me, she asked, does he call? does he e-mail? i said, no. she said what does that tell you. in facing the truth, it means he does not care about me, he does not love me, he does not want to know about me. at first of course i was devestated, but now, i'm ok. it's truly his loss of a wonderful woman. i hope and wish for all of you that you can make it to this point. please, focus on yourself. stop focusing on what they are doing, who they are with, relationships they are making. you may or may not ever get those answers. love yourself. the world out there is so very beautiful and full of awesome wonders, but until you accept what is going on with you, you miss out on so much. xoxoxoxox love, linda
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most of Australia is in the grip of a severe drought which is obviously affecting food prices. I am very grateful that I know how to grow food plants and that although I live in a low rainfall area we are serviced by a massive dam, so no water restrictions. The landlord also pays the water here and arranges lawn mowing. I need to remind myself that I have some things to be grateful for in...
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A recent study, (I wonder how much money they put into the study) says to much bathing/showering is bad for your skin.Sheesh, I could have told them that for nothing. Anyone that washes their hands OFTEN, or swims often. Knows that your skin can become dry, itchy and raw. So, washing less... uses less water and less soap. Maybe less creams to keep your skin moisturized. Go figure!Let's do a...
So true. NOTHING to gain by it, SO MUCH to lose.
The urge subsides and disappears after a while. It just becomes a non-issue.
When my ex BF and decided to "break" I decided not to contact him...then he called me the next day, then the second, then the third...I finally had to write and say I was out of town. I guess my point being is that after 1 week and 5 days I have not talk to him. I miss him but I have not had the strength to talk. I need not to talk to him to better myself right now. We will have to see if that holds over the weekend. I miss him. UGH!