No sir! You were a gentle, loving husband. Nothing wrong with that. I tried the same with my relationship. Breakfast in bed on Sunday's, Home made soup when he was sick, Back rubs after a long day. Don't regret one minute of it. It's part of who I am. I only regret that I don't have someone to take care of now :)

That's how you showed your love...with little acts of kindness. It was precious (yes it's ok for a man to be "precious" to a woman who loves him. She lost a good man.

No you're not a p-w sorry ass but surely there was more to your relationship than the little things. My STBX was great when it came to the little things, but the big things are what made him impossible to live with. My little things weren't appreciated either. A little frosting on a piece of crap does not a cupcake make.

I have the flu today so consider where this is coming from. why, why, why, did she go? She will never be loved more. Wow I'm in trouble aren't I.

She was a very lucky woman.

It's the little things that matter the most.

Part of my "new" self is to pay attention and acknowledge those little things for my friends and supporters now. These people are much more important to me than my stbx.

Rob, turn it around-if a Woman did these things for a Guy, would it be Wrong?

When stbx had to be dropped at the airport, I generally came back, emptied his truck and DETAILED IT, myself.

I kept watch on his water glass, when he was home...yup, half full, change it out.

Underware to be folded a certain way-no problem.

The man never mowed a lawn, took out the garbage...he did NOTHING around the house, even when I worked.

He decided that he wanted our old house painted, by Hand, no sprayer...I Painted the Damned Thing!!!

Do I call myself names??? Hmmmm, not really...he did enough of that. He likes to stay at the beginning of the alphabet.

Will I be this way again? Yeah, it's just Me. Ask my Dogs. Or my Kids.

It sounds like You were just being YOU, and She didn't accept the Gift.

I am Sorry for All of the Givers on this Forum. I hope that All of You have it in you to Keep Giving and not hold back. Don't let THEM win.

Rob,

You can continue to question whether you were responsible for the breakup, or you can continue to be you. There IS somebody out there that wants YOU.

What a wonderful sweet man you are. Don't ever change.

Rob,

We really did so much for our stbx. We did it because it is in our nature to do so. We did it because we really loved them. We did it because we would have done anything for them.

Thank God that there are still loving & caring
men out there like my grandfather was.
I've been there myself & know where you're coming from.

Breakfast in Bed-
Clean the garage
folded shirts so he could see which one he was getting out of the drawer
all the house work
his favorte things packed in his lunch
Dumping his spitters
always making sure he had a soda next to him
making sure a towel was on the counter-all the time so he could forget to get a towel before he got in the shower
packed his bag for fishing trips
ironed his tournament clothes
ran business errands after I got off work.
Served him all three sunday meals on the couch during football season.
cleaned his truck
made sure there was always fresh ranch dip and the"right" kind of chips.
did all the yard work
should I go on... I fell like I made a complete ass out of myself.I don't think the little things matter- I still got kicked to the curb.

Of course they matter! Those things are the things that really matter!
And no Rob, that doesn't sound pussy whipped! It sounds like what a normal person would do for the person they loved! You're a great guy! Too bad for her!

Okay-they did not matter to him-that is why he was wrong for me-I love to do the little things.