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Do I take my nickname with me?

deleted_user
deleted_user
Me ex gave me a nickname that I've come to be as familiar with as my own name. It made me feel special and he rarely actually called me by my own name. I've been wondering whether I keep the nickname or leave it behind.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Gotta spill it, what is it?
deleted_user
deleted_user
My guess is that it's a speical name for just the two of you...can you imagine anyone else calling you by that name?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think it's muffin
deleted_user
deleted_user
Do tell. Is it shnookums?
Thriver
Thriver
I would just do what feels natural. If it will take some effort to get rid of it, keep it. One day if it feels wrong, you can shed it.
FrmDeb2U
FrmDeb2U
ok.. the suspense is killing us!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry, I didn't mean to pry. I was hoping for a smile, though I wouldn't see it.

If you feel comfortable with the name keep it. I kept mine only because he created my email address using it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Is it schmoopy? Or is that just the Seinfeld fan in me projecting? ;-) I say it's up to you -- does it make you think of the ex when you hear it? Does it hurt? If not, and it's really part of you, keep it! You may not get much else from the bastard.... (Ooops! I'm a little bitter right now -- m therapist has announced that I have officially moved into the angry phase! But you get my point!) Good luck, and let us know what you decide to do!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I left mine behind and now I have a new one that I love. Emmie. It means something. My old one would mean nothing comming from someone else. Plus it was stupid.
CanadianRose
CanadianRose
is it Pussy Galore?.. ohhhhh wait.. no that is my nicname.. that and CanadianBacon... lol

okay..look.. if u like the name and u can identify with it.. use it.

but you got to share now..you just got to babe.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I would leave it behind with the past,what if you meet someone new and he finds out you still use your pet name from your ex?
Just sayin'
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ryan has called me "elf"(for explanation check profile pics) for as long as I can remember. I love my nickname and don't think I'll give it up.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Should be no harm to keep it if you like it. I'm keeping mine; "Mr. Wonderful".
deleted_user
deleted_user
Do tell!!! I'm "Bunny" so there, now you know mine....lets hear yours
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I didn't realize everyone would be so interested in what he called me -LOL! He always called me Lily. His reasoning was that I'm delicate as a flower - but strong too - like a lily. He bought a big painting of a jar of lilies that is really pretty. I took it with me when I left.
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