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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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I am struggling with every aspect of my life...
finding a job, money, loss of relationship, health, responsibilty, emotions, everything
I dont feel together at all- I havent felt together EVER.
I am trying to figure out where to start.
There is so much I need to change within myself like my attitude, irresponsibility, laziness, selfishness, and fix my broken heart.
I also need to find a job, get out of debt, get my car fixed.
I am stuck - I dont know which way to turn,..,
I dont know how I feel about god. I think deep down I believe in the concept but I am not sure. To be honest I dont want to become a person whose life revolves around god. I have a close friend who goes to church every sunday- is saving herself for marriage, believes with her heart god decides her fate.
I dont want to go to church, I dont understand how god can give u these rules that u have to follow in order to be loved by him..
I want to get into a codependency program but I know they are a lot about faith in god..
I believe that some things can happen for a reason but I also believe things that happen are just wrong and mean. If god was so strong why does he let these things happen all over the world?
My question is - can I find myself without total faith in god?
finding a job, money, loss of relationship, health, responsibilty, emotions, everything
I dont feel together at all- I havent felt together EVER.
I am trying to figure out where to start.
There is so much I need to change within myself like my attitude, irresponsibility, laziness, selfishness, and fix my broken heart.
I also need to find a job, get out of debt, get my car fixed.
I am stuck - I dont know which way to turn,..,
I dont know how I feel about god. I think deep down I believe in the concept but I am not sure. To be honest I dont want to become a person whose life revolves around god. I have a close friend who goes to church every sunday- is saving herself for marriage, believes with her heart god decides her fate.
I dont want to go to church, I dont understand how god can give u these rules that u have to follow in order to be loved by him..
I want to get into a codependency program but I know they are a lot about faith in god..
I believe that some things can happen for a reason but I also believe things that happen are just wrong and mean. If god was so strong why does he let these things happen all over the world?
My question is - can I find myself without total faith in god?
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then go buy some angel cards from chapters and live a more spiritual life....Okay, in the meanwhile cope day to day. Assess everyone you meet., are they a positive influence? great if not, dump them or avoid them. Focus on you and your goals.
Your head is on straight. You know what you need to do, every morning review your goals and do something every day to move slightly closer to those goals.
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I am stunned at how close your situation parallels my stbx. Only difference is you seem aware of the opportunities you have to improve your life. You can do anything you set tour mind towards!
Good luck, and there's tons of support here. Keep the open and honest dialogue coming.
It took me many years to develop a 'feel' for god and to have faith that things unfold the way they should.
A good series on this is 'Conversations with God' by Donald Neale Walsch. They are in book form but I really like the audio book version. He has a website to explore also. It is all about spirituality without being tied to organized religion.
Also, explore some non-Christian religions. Buddhism is a good one. You will find when you start studying a variety of religions that the underlying premise is the same in nearly all of them. Including Christianity. I love to read the bible for Jesus's words. They are very powerful words to live by. BUT there is a lot in the New Testament that was written by people who never even met Jesus - that is interesting but in my case not very applicable to my belief system. I respect the fact that different people have different points of view on this but there is nothing wrong with doing your own 'exploring' of this and developing a personal belief system that is different from mainstream Christianity. Good luck. Just the fact that you are even thinking about these things is a very good sign that you are on your way.
I am very spiritual, but I am an agnostic. You don't have to believe in God to believe. Bad and good happen to everybody whether they believe in God, or not.
Because you are questioning is a sign you are seeking. You can be a Christian and never set foot in the church aka organized religion. If you choose to seek and know about the born-again God, there are many Christians here that would gladly help you out. If you seek another path, there are many of us that can help you out.
I'm sure you can find a codependency group that are not God-oriented. Look up the Pagan groups in your area.
Whatever path you choose, you are well on your way to your own personal relationship with your God or Goddess, or Higher Power. If I may actually quote a Bible verse here; Seek and you shall find, when you search for it with your whole heart.
Footnote: I do believe Jesus had many great teachings.
Anyone can believe less than 100% in God but then you would not be getting the full benefits of God and his words.
I think the idea of learning about all types of "Higher Powers" might be a good idea for you. You don't sounds like you want to give 100% to anything right now. Once you educate yourself some more you might find what works for you and then you might be willing to put 100% into it. Good luck on your search.
I'm more of a believer in Angels - if that makes sense.
I don't think you need to a have a faith to find yourself I think you just need faith IN yourself.
Last time I went through a breakup I searched for something to help me and looked into Buddhism and Wicca and allsorts- nothing won out - I still had the same beliefs.
Take care
take care
I will be praying for you.
As for God's love for you...the Bible states that God's love for us is unconditional. He doesn't love us ONLY when we follow the rules. Honestly - I break a few every day and I'm totally secure in the fact that he loves me anyway! He promises that in His word.
As for bad things that happen - Romans 8:28 states "And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good for those who are called according to his purpose"
Nobody else can pretend to know what purpose He has for you and for what purpose He has allowed you to go thru the heartbreaks you have endured. I haven't figured this out for myself either but I know that HE has a plan for my life.
Praying you find direction in your search for yourself!