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do i have a chance

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my problem is very complicated, i have abused substances and verbaly abused my wife for over 10 years it has even escalated to physical abuse and threats 3 times. I am now shut out from her and she claims to be in love with a death row inmate that she has been writng for only 3 months. I have been clean for almost 2 months and have been as nice as posible trying to win her back. she has agreed to counsling for the sake of the kids but is not making any promises. what do i do???
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take one day at a time and concentrate on your recovery. counseling is excellent no matter what the outcome of the relationship is. i'm not judging your wife, but a death row inmate, perhaps because it's a safe relationship, she's never going to meet him face to face. i don't know. but for you, your recovery should be at the top of your priority list, because in making yourself clean and sober, working on your abusive behaviors you have a chance at a wonderful life ahead and that will truly benefit you and your children.
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I agree with churop, go to counseling for your sake.
Don't worry about your wife, worry about you, you are the only one that you can change. She's off on her own fantasy, she may never come back to you. After so much abuse, I doubt a woman would want to return with a promise it won't happen again.Do things for yourself and the kids is my advice. Take care
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Work your 12 step program, get a sponsor. Be there for your kids. She will have to see a lot more from you before making a decision like that. Do your best and put the results in the hands of your higher power, and everything will work out the way it should.

Your honesty gets you off to a good start.
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two pieces of advice: 1. continue counseling for yourself, 2. actions speak louder than words ever will--you can say all you want to your wife, but I think you need to SHOW her how you feel---ungoing, not just for a few wks/mths...but until SHE sees you really have changed.
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I am in almost the same situation..the wife is "in love with a Nigerian" from Nigeria..she will never meet him but won't go to counseling..the BEST thing for you to do is do the counseling FOR YOURSELF..not her or the relationship...take the time to get yourself healthy..and if it is meant to be it will happen.
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