I met with my attorney this week and officially filed for the divorce. My husband will be getting served shortly. I am still devastated and shocked by everything that has happened but my husband destroyed everything we had and left me with no choice. I have a horrible mess to deal with and am completely overwhelmed. We have a 2 yr old child together and therefore must still have alot of contact because of that (which is awful for me). I have been filled with so much rage and hatred and have spent quite some time going off on him which of course he does not like. This week I decided that I was over that for now and began to speak to him as little as possible and basically ignore him even when I do have to see him when he comes to pick up our daughter for visits. I just pretend that he is not even standing there and only speak to my daughter and kiss her goodbye and wish her a fun time. My husband wants to be able to call her daily to say hello and chat with her. Of course since she is only 2 I have to be involved to an extent and this completely pisses me off. (He is playing father of the year now and wasn't that interested before so this just makes me even more sick.) I do not want to speak with him at all. My attorney told me that she did not think that it was an unreasonable request that he be able to call me or I call him daily so that he can speak with our daughter given that she is only 2 and cannot call him on her own right now. This is my problem - because our daughter is only 2 she can only hold the conversation for so long and not really tell him that much. When he calls I immediately put her on the phone and when she is done I tell him she's done and basically hang up on him. I in no way make it weird for my daughter and encourage her to talk to her daddy and blow him kisses etc. He does not like this and expects me to chit chat with him about how her day is going etc. and I told him that I will not be chit chatting with him ever again about anything. I was curious to see how other people are handling this type of situation. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks alot.
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