On Jan. 28 my husband was arrested for Domestic Battery III. He spent a night in jail and may not contact me or come near our home until he goes to court March 5. He moved in with his parents. His father paid a $10,000 retaining fee to a renowned divorce lawyer and on Mon. Feb. 12th I received a complaint for divorce. I am a stay at home mom of 4 daughters. I do have a bachelor's degree and had a career prior to our first child's birth 8 years ago. I just acquired an attorney yesterday. I filed for an order of protection the day after his attack. I was granted an ex parte order of protection. We had a hearing on Feb. 14th to determine his visitation rights for our children. He was granted standard visitation rights. His father has called me and harrassed me over the telophone twice. I reported the harrassing calls to the police. My attorney gave me a reality check yesterday. He said I need to realize that I have to get back into my career and be prepared to support myself and my children. My school age girls and I have been attending group art therapy sessions at the Women's Shelter. We also have been seeing their school counselor. I have been on an emotional rollercoaster. First of all I had to come to the realization that I was a victim of abuse and it was not my fault. Next, I had to realize that I can no longer stay at home and take care of my babies. My attorney is setting me up with a good counselor which is covered under "mental health" in my health insurance. The worst realization hit the hardest. My poor girls are going to have to suffer the effects of a divorce on top of suffering the effects of witnessing domestic abuse. My husband and his family have no concern about our children and how this is going to tear them up. Their sweet little hearts will be shattered. What could I do to minimize their pain?
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