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deleted_user
deleted_user
When my soon to be ex filed for divorce, I had to reply, in which I asked for court ordered counseling. I really did want to save my marriage. Now 2 months later I finally get a letter from my lawyer saying that the judge has ordered counseling for us, but I am moving on and no longer have the desire to try and work things out. Yes there are two sides to every story but she has burned too many bridges. Can I get out of this?
Che2
Che2
Might not hurt to go anyway. Maybe it will give the two of you a chance to have a less than horrible divorce and clarify why you don't need to be together. If you asked for it..I wouldn't mess with it.
CanadianRose
CanadianRose
you could ask your lawyer.. it may look better if you show up and go thru it so the judge sees that you are willing to suggestions.

can you call the court clerk and ask?...

ask your lawyer... tell them things have changed since you first made that request and well... who knows SHE may feel the same way.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I did ask for it... this wasn't a mutual divorce .... but I have since seen her wicked side and her sleeping with another man.. destroyed 10 years of trust. There is a 90 day waiting period inmy state.. I just want to move on.
Che2
Che2
In that case..definately talk to your Lawyer. Things have changed. I had to wait 3 months too..actually 4 before I had my court date. Good luck.
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
I hear ya. I wanted to try to work things out at first too, then I realized it was the right thing for us to do. I've been paying for their living requirements, so things are peaceful.

Ask your lawyer what your options are?
deleted_user
deleted_user
thanks for your thought.. I though it might impress the judge .... but it's too late now... the best thing is there are no kids involved.
deleted_user
deleted_user
*flick*
deleted_user
deleted_user
i would go anyway it cant hurt
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
one day at a time
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