Hmm, that is not my experience. One day after my wife left to join her new lover, and stopped talking to her kids, I adjusted immeadiately, lost weight, read great novels, learned french and got a promotion at work...NOT! Damn I hate to be sarcastic but I totally relate to your feelings. What is great for me is that it is less intense now than it was last week. Of course, I always do better during the week than on the weekends and it is dreaded thursday with the weekend very close. I don't even trust that the worst pain is behind me, however, I eat, I sleep (albeit with Tylenol pm) and I can breathe. So...forget my stupid sarcasm and hang in there. DS has been a great help to me and will hopefully help us all get to that better place where we are not in pain on a regular basis.

Gut wrenching pain!
Uncontrollable crying!
Feelings of strength coming in!
Confusion!
Learning to laugh!

Yeah those sound about right. I keep thinking the pain will get less, but lately I feel like I am back to square one. Maybe it is the holidays.

Panama, all normal, its part of the process, are you in therapy or on any anti depressants?

Ouch. Those thoughts all there in any random order. Sooner or later they must subside there is no other way. It is so strange how any day can be good, bad, of downright ugly.

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I have no insurance, I am self employed, and because of my depression my work is suffering so my income is down. I will just have to tuff it out

Feeling empty.
Uncontrollable crying.
No motivation.

ALL OF THAT!!!!!!

I just wish I could turn my thoughts off b/c it gives me a frickin' headache sometimes.

I'm right there with you. Know that after 4 months it is a little easier. I still have bad days, esp. the weekends. Give yourself some slack, try to get regular exercise and eat well, stay busy and keep your chin up as best you can. We can and will get through this.

The symptoms all sound familiar to me. The periods of feeling okay get longer, then there is a backslide. Questioning and reliving the past over and over. So tiring and depleting. So not fair that they are living it up with the OW's and OM.

It feels so good to know that i am not all alone in this, and what I am feeling is the same as eveyone else. If i didn't know any better I would think i was dieing from all the stress/pain/ and everything else

I walk around all day feeling damaged, bruised and hurt. The first 6 days I didnt eat a thing and went down to 7 stone..for a few days I made strange noises like a silent sob and rocked. My heart felt like it was in a wrench. Week 4 I felt better, cooking for myself for the first time in 13 years, doing my business...but still walk around feeling damaged and hurt. I think about my husband from the minute I wake when he has been in my dreams till the evening when I have a few drinks and numb it all out. I had stopped crying for a bit but yesterday broke down twice after hearing he had been waiving his cheque around in the pub (money for his half of the house). It is a horrible worse than death experience.

Yes.. the numbness.. walking around in a fog.. unable to function properly...on auto pilot most of the time.

and yes, the Divorce Diet...you can't eat, and you can't sleep.

take my advice.. please.. please do not turn to alcohol.. I did...it was the worse thing I could of done. Do not try to numb the hurt with alcohol or drugs.

Rest, see if there is free counselling available to you... go look for it. Ask others for help.

We are here for you... know that and be assured most of us have been there and we feel your hurt. (((HUGS))))

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Eventually, after you have come to accept all that as a lifestyle, somehow it ends. You find that your life is different, and you are more concerned with what lies ahead.