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Divorce Grinched Me!

deleted_user
deleted_user
Is anyone else noticing that everyone wants to have a happy Xmas and just seeing you brings up thoughts of broken families and loneliness? I don't think it's my imagination that the closer we get to Xmas the less happy people want to hang. And, it's not even like I wear them out on divorce - it's just knowing that I'm divorced that's doing it...
deleted_user
deleted_user
^5 guy! I know the feeling well!!I work in retail and see all the happy couples, so much in love, the happy holidays. BA HUMBUG!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yea my friends stopped calling me period because they don't know what to say to me. These have been friends of 20 years.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I've noticed that aquaintence will walk up to me after hearing about my upcoming divorce and with this sad, puppy dog eyed look will say"how ARE you." Makes me want to scream--I don't need their pity. They only ask because they're nosy.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I haven't even been invited to one Christmas party! Very unusual for me!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't even want to think about it HUMBUG
Southernmedic
Southernmedic
Yep. Weird isn't it.

I won't have any of my kids at Christmas either. First time in 19 years that I won't have at least some of my kids.

And I am dating again...but who would you ask to spend time with you at Christmas??? I haven't dated anyine long enough to do Christmas with them yet.

Guess I will volunteer to work so someone else can have Christmas.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Funny, although I too have always gone to several Christmas Parties during the holidays. Even if I was asked this year, I am not ready to go to Christmas Parties with a bunch of couples. Earlier this week, I really felt bahumbug, now with my decorations up and knowing my kids will stay the night Christmas Eve and have Christmas Breakfast together is making it easier. Just family though no social parties. May step out New Years though
deleted_user
deleted_user
I too have been having an EXTREMELY hard time with this as well! I also am working retail & it is very hard to see the happy & know that somehow I have to pull it together to make a Merry Xmas for my kids as their Dad has no plans of even seeing them as his new fiances 5 kids are more important this year. He told me I'm their Mom & it's my job not his. I hope this is easier next year!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Between now and mid-January sees the highest suicide rates among post-teen people. Christmas is actually a fragile time for many people, and office parties a a common time for ilicit romances to start.
I love Christmas. You can hear the hypocracy.
sc2kids4me
sc2kids4me
It's fresh for them too. They are used to you being a part of a couple, it's tough for them to know how to treat you. Just like it's taking time for you to adjust, it will take time for them to adjust. It tough, but it's just another hurdle to leap.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Probably shouldn't take it personal. They just don't know what to say really. Not sure "where you're at" will make them walk on eggshells around us, afraid to wish us well and happy holidays.
Say it to them first, invite them out or over.
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