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if a married couple were getting divorced and they have a house, there both names are on the mortgage and home equity loans but only 1 of them was on the house title
been married since 2001. together since 1998
is the wife still entitled to anything or is she basically at a lose for anything at time of divorce, the husband is claiming she gets absolutly nothing but her belongings
we are in New York state
new york is a equitable distribution state when relating to marital property
the house was purchased in 1998, we married in 2001
also I paid the lawyer ind ecember he has yet to do anything let alone never returns my calls so I fired him I see new lawyer today
I am suppose to get my 2 thousand retianer bakc minus the few minutes we spoke by phone, he also said he will deduct for emails I sent him but he never even replied to the emails
wow this is costing me money I just do not have
been married since 2001. together since 1998
is the wife still entitled to anything or is she basically at a lose for anything at time of divorce, the husband is claiming she gets absolutly nothing but her belongings
we are in New York state
new york is a equitable distribution state when relating to marital property
the house was purchased in 1998, we married in 2001
also I paid the lawyer ind ecember he has yet to do anything let alone never returns my calls so I fired him I see new lawyer today
I am suppose to get my 2 thousand retianer bakc minus the few minutes we spoke by phone, he also said he will deduct for emails I sent him but he never even replied to the emails
wow this is costing me money I just do not have
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I have a similar situation, right down to the $900 bill from the attorney who has done absolutely nothing.
In my case, I happen to be the one that owned the house since 1998, 4 years before the STBX and I met... and I alone made the $20,000 down payment on it. I covered $40,000 worth of joint credit card debt with my home equity thru a refinance in 2004. I also have been making all the mortgage payments for the 2 years since our separation.
The court would give my STBX half the proceeds from the sale of the house.
I want to know how the hell anyone can call that fair!
(In my case, I screwed up and put the SOB on the title.)
If you ask me, you should leave a marriage with exactly what you came into it with. Sure, divide anything that was acquired during the marriage... that includes any increase in value of an asset while the two of you were together. Sure, my STBX lived in my house 8 of the 14 years I lived there and the home appreciated in value over those years... but give him a precentage of that increase based on the length of his stay, make him reimburse me for half of what I've paid toward OUR JOINT debts since we separated, and most of all, GIVE ME BACK MY DOWN PAYMENT!!!
THAT'S FAIR!! Don't you guys agree???
I also have to get my own house appraisal so they are going to do this for me next week
my hubby thinks he is slick
Lyne
but I think I can use money from home equity to pay this as it is towards house
I do not want to ask lawyer and be charged lol
And equitable distribution doesn't always mean 50/50...you may be entitled to more.
I was added to mortgage and home equity in 2004 when we refinaced it ,in 2007 it was valued at 217 thousand
not sure now what it is
10 years of marriage is important for some reason.
Over 10 years, assets are split 50/50 usually and possibly alimony may be applicable.
However, there is the consideration of what each party brought into to the marriage. Since we had nothing to bring into the marriage, I have no experience on this.
You do need legal advice. My experience is that you should also have an objective person evaluate what the attorney is doing and your decisions.
I have seen several attorney's go into a room with all the information they need and come out with some good suggestions and some bad ones. Bad meaning their financial suggestions demonstarted that they were good at law but sucked at understanding the tax implications of their suggestions. They also got confused about what month and year to use to establish fair market value of assets. They used different dates for different assets ... beats me how they get these rules. My impression of family attorney's is that success for them is getting a settlement signed between the parties. The parties better look out for themselves. So the attorney's will never have the incentive we have to look out for our own best interest.
Good luck. I wish i could tell you that lawyers, once hired, were all brilliant and exceptional. They are not.