I am working with my attorney on the financial settlement for our divorce. My stbx is forcing us to go to court, because he wants to change the terms of our separation agreement. When we separated, I agreed to take the dollar amount he volunteered, which was not a very large amount and did not include any special consideration for the fact that I am raising a handicapped child by myself (she is in a wheelchair and has bladder and bowel issues - her handicap is like a spinal injury). I have had to work part-time since the separation because the dollar amount was not enough to live and raise 3 children on. Anyhow, now stbx is trying to reduce his payment by more than half. But my attorney thinks that we can successfully ask for much more than he has been paying. Now, I don't want to be greedy, but when we get divorced, I will lose my health insurance and am not in a position to work full-time and get benefits from my job(daughter needs quite a bit of care during the night, so I don't get a lot of sleep). My attorney wants to ask the court to have him pay for my health insurance and also to pay either the difference between what I am earning part-time (as an hourly employee) and what I could earn (with a master's degree) full-time - or to have him pay for a 3rd shift nurse so I can get some sleep and work. I have to have health insurance. I also have to have some rest. But I feel this is a lot to have him pay. At some point, he would just give up and quit working if we ask for too much. So, my question is, what do you think? How much is too much. He does earn a great salary and rarely has the kids, as a matter of fact, in the 5 years we've been separated, he's never had all 3 at once. I want to take care of myself and my daughter (the boys are getting older, so they'll be out of the picture soon), but I also want to do what is right.
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