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Divorce after 25 Years - Our Stories

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Seems like if you hit 25 years divorce should be impossible - why do you think it is so many of us go for it then. Is it coz the kids are in college - is it coz you're just sick of the spouse. Is it abusive relationships tolerated for children's sake. Is it for adventure? Is it because you've always been married because it was expected even though you're gay (probably my reason).

Come on now - I want to hear your stories!
TSand
TSand
19 years here and we have twins in their last year of high school. My wife lost her mother a year and a half ago and that combined with the children leaving seemed to push her to a new place of disatisfaction. She has seemingly gone a bit crazy, massive spending, estrangement from the kids, not talking to any old friends of hers, but that is not my concern. I need to focus as much as I can on me. I have to take care of myself and deal with what is going on in my life.
deleted_user
deleted_user
28 years. He said he had been miserable for about 25 but no good time to leave me since the kids were born.

I had reasons to leave years ago and everyone told me so, but I stuck it out because that is what marriage is about, for better or worse. He had the opportunity to make it better, but he did not know how. I wasn't in him.

So he left me for a relative of SIL's which has torn several families apart without hope of reconciliation. An example of his selfishness, stupidity, and immaturity.
GeocacherNY
GeocacherNY
23 1/2 years and the split was on Valentine's Day.

"We Drifted"... well, yeah, but I just thought we morphed into parents and accepted our life's choices.

But I'm so glad we split! Hopefully by Valentine's Day we'll be Divorced.. 2 years to the day
deleted_user
deleted_user
Together for 17 years but he quickly lost interest after the first 3 years. Tried different things to get the marriage back together but he didn't want to put in the effort. I think he always thought I was second best. For years I told him I would leave if it didn't change but he ignored me. I probably should have left sooner but I thought my marriage was forever and worth fighting for but then he didn't. When I finally left, he didn't want me to, saying I would be "difficult to replace", but not irreplaceable. After hearing that I knew I had made the right choice.
deleted_user
deleted_user
1 year. Split on our 1st Anniversary. She was cold and empty after our son was born.
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deleted_user
Some go thru mid life and blame spouse for everything wrong in their life. They refuse to grow old gracefully and make many mistakes. End up laying on couch alone till they drop I imagine.

This is more common than most will admit to.
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