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deleted_user
deleted_user
i've had a really difficult six yrs w/ the love of my life. LOL, i forget how long we will be married, possibly three years. It takes two to tangle. He controlled, abused me emotionally, physiically. It wasn't easy and towards the end, i couldn't stand him clinging on. For the last time, he abused me, choked me. I wasn't going to call the police, then this stranger seen the mark on my neck, and said, holy smokes, who has been sucking on your neck? I told him my husband abused me, this stranger went straight to the phone and called the police, then i talked w/ them w/o thinking about it. Today my husband is incarcerated, possibly facing over two to three years. I can't help him, i love him still but he needs counseling, long term treatment. Anyhow to make a long story short...he doesn't want me to get a divorce, he said to leave it alone...that i would collect his life insurance if something should happen to him. Isn't that sick?
deleted_user
deleted_user
You need to get out of the relationship while the getting is good. Don't what more you need to get motivated, when is enough, enough?
deleted_user
deleted_user
There's no going back from someone choking you, I hope. He is where he belongs.

I think you we can all hope for more than collecting someone's life insurance.
deleted_user
deleted_user
That stranger did you a favor-they saved your life. Why would you even consider anything less than a divorce?
deleted_user
deleted_user
if your the beneficiary you'll get it anyway, married or not. so go ahead and get your divorce.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Run, don't walk. Get out.
Your life is worth more than any insurance he may have on him.
julik
julik
Dear CEEs, I once read this article in my local paper about a woman who was questioning whether or not she should stay with her bf after some difficulties. This was the advise - and I think this is the best - I hold it often against my stbx.) If you were to develop a list of characterists that are desireable in a bf or a mate (not the current one) what would be on your list? Alcoholic/druggie (no), abusive (no), liar (no), cheater (no), incarcerated (no) etc.

What would be your list of an IDEAL person. Imagine it - what would be the qualities that you need, what would be the characteristics that you wouldn't accept? Trusting, loving, truth, committment, devotion, etc. OK - if your current partner doesn't meet this same criteria - why are you with them? If he isn't willing to come up to your standards - why are you with him? Accepting less - is exactly that - accepting less - and for why - are you not worth it? I hardly think so. Everybody is worth happiness, but you must trust in the universe (god) to help you through this and to be strong. Don't accept less than what you deserve.
Garrison
Garrison
Maybe some strangers aren't so "strange"....
deleted_user
deleted_user
Go ahead and divorce him. Your lawyer will be able to get it so he can not change you as a beneficiary. Mine can't and I am divorcing him. He physically, mentally, emotionally, verbally, and sexually abused me. I refuse to put up with it any longer and you should do the same. Right now enjoy taking time for yourself and doing for you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
WOW!!! don't beleive the hype!! HE DOES NOT WANT YOU TO DIVORCE HIM BECAUSE HE WANTS TO KEEP YOU AS "HIS"!! As fas as insurance goes he can put in writing that he wants you to be the beneficiary. We all make mistakes, but attempting to take someones life!! choking is the step that takes place before killing!! FIND SUPPORT WHILE HE IS LOCKED AWAY, GET STRONG AND SAVE YOURSELF!! MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND KEEP YOU:)
deleted_user
deleted_user
So keep paying the insurance and make sure you are the beneficiary whether you are the spouse or not. My H has two insurance companies and I plan to pay for one of them so my older two sons (he raised them since 3 & 5 but now they are "step-sons") and I can get something (he is 15 years older than me). The second insurance will all go to our biological son.
deleted_user
deleted_user
that in essence in addition to the physical abuse he's inflicted emotional abuse by saying that about the life ins. Do what you have to do, and DON"T worry about him anymore, protect yourself.
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