As much as we have been disappointed by our stbx/ex we have to know and accept they are no longer capable of being the person we thought they once were or we would like them to be. It is hard at times when they are there right in front of our face or when their action are brought up to you and you in some ways just felt let down. Its not a matter of understanding how this can be but knowing this is how it is. I hold to the belief that there is goodness in so many but find it hard when that goodness is longer in a person you never thought would let you down. The reality is, they have, they did and they continue to do. I guess in certain ways we let ourselves down because we should know better by now. After all that has happen, the "I cant believe they are this way" shouldnt be the "I cant believe" but should be the "I believe it", its real and its them. I cant expect her to be someone the way I want her to be but have to accept her for the person she is now, even though it is disappointing. I may not like it, but it is what it is.
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