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december 5th mediation

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we're going to our 2nd mediation appt. on wednesday the 5th. i cant belive it is next week. at our last seession we were asked to come up with parenting plans to share on the 5th. ive come up with only one scenario because i do not like the 50/50 or 2 nights here 2 nights there crap. so im offering one night a week, alternate weekends, even/odd alternating holidays and 1/2 and 1/2 of all school breaks plus 2 non consctive weeks in the summer. and i would do more days during the week in the summer but offering 1 first. cause this way i dont offer say 2 and he'll want 3. i think my way is fair. but who know if he'll agree to it. if not we have to go to court. this makes me really nervous. not that i have anything to hide but it just makes me nervous the whole court thing.
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I can totally agree with you. My STBX wants 50/50 -- one week on, one week off. We're doing a collaborative divorce (two attorneys but mediation). My attorney recommended seeing an expert child psychologist to help my STBX understand why 50/50 isn't a good idea. We're seeing her on Dec. 5 (!). I think your plan is exactly what I am going to propose, but I also added up the school days off (long weekend holidays, 1/2 days) during the year. There are 25 of them! I'm going to offer him all of them so his every other weekend doesn't feel so long. He'll never take the 25, but it seems like a generous offer. We're also splitting summer vacation (12 weeks). We have to figure out camp, vacation, etc. That's where I'm also going to be generous and say I'll take 8 weeks, so he only has to deal with taking off 4 weeks in the summer for work.

Good luck. Let me know how it goes!!
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thanks hope62 I can say i think we are being fair to our stbx and looking out for the children.

thanks again
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