Boy..dont do things his way (just as when we were married) and the *&%^ hits the fan! I am threatened with motioning to raise the child support i pay (we agreed that if it is keep where it is i would have more $ to drive up and see her and do stuff for her)..arrearages (once again..threatening to ask for c/s before it was ordered...i was in a bad way during that time and was not responsiblie even to myself...but all the compassion is gone in an instant once things dont go his way)...i do what i can for him...i am remarried and just cant be there for him in whatever crazy way he wants...sure, tell me that he should move on..well, that means for him that i am out of the picture..as in i should not see my daughter anymore...all or nothing..i do what i can so he wont take it out on our daughter..his "feelings" toward me are totally separate from hers...i am her mom..and always wil be...if she is able to forgive, accept..she should be allowed to and not forced to be in whatever place he is in...i must not be frightened by him as i always have been...it just amazes me how quickly he turns on me...i help out when they need it...i help her to "deal' with him..as i had to..never, ever putting him in a bad light but helping her to "understand" him..i must remember that one day...she will be on her own...with a good life i pray..and i will not have to deal with him anymore...i dont like to harbor ill towards anyone...i just dislike him so when he acts this way...mean, spiteful, vindictive..makes my wonder how he could be truthful about all the nice things he may say..to say the least i dont trust him..and he wonders why!!