Hi everyone- I'm new to this site. It seems to be just what I need, a place to chat with others in the same boat. I'm just having trouble with the day to day stuff. I mean, one day is fine and then the next I'm in tears. I know this is normal, but it is so hard. I'm dealing a lot with anger now. You see, I moved from Texas to California last June because my husband took a job there. Things were tough at first because I left everything I knew- job, family and a beautiful home. We were great in Texas, and then California just changed him. He became a different man. He wasn't loving or caring. I was depressed. A new place, no friends and I was basically ignored by him at times. He was so into the new job. He said that job came before family. We have been married 6 years. We were going to start a family when we moved, but he said that he changed his mind about children. He said before he took the job we would move back in a few years after we made the big money, but then he changed his mind. He totally shut out all my family who he was once been close to. I flew home to Texas in January (this year) to surprise my mom for her birthday. He called me the next day and said our marriage was over and he didn't want to work it out. He said it was taking me too long to adjust and that I needed to be with my family. I have since moved back to Texas, I had no reason to be there except him. I just feel like I can't believe it some days. Is this happening? How could he move me out there away from my family, job and everything and then send me back 7 months later? It takes people time to adjust to a new place, but it is even harder when the spouse who should be loving starts being cruel. Crazy! How can a person just change like that so drastically? He hasn't filed the papers yet, but I know it is coming. I feel like I tried my best going out there and supporting him in his dreams. I tried my best out in California, but he just didn't need me out there. I guess the love of the job and the desire of all the money and the future took over. He doesn't want a family or a home. I'm was a good wife to him maybe too good. I know something good will come out of this, but it is just so hard day-to-day. Thanks for listening. Sorry if I went too long.
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