My oldest daughter is begininning to exhibit many similiar attributes of her father's personality when it comes to dealing with other's emotions and handling sensitive people and situations. She is 10. My second is 7. My oldest is very mature for her age and severely independant. My 7 year old is very emotional, highly sensitive and as my stbx would say, NEEDY...Im also very sensitive, and requested more time and involvement than he was capable of giving, which he belittled me about for years while ignoring every request i made. I see my oldest doing the same to her baby sister. Cold, and unemotional to her. My 7 year old so despeately wants to be involved and wanted by her big sister, but she treats her like she's lower than her, and annoying. The hate word is flying around a lot. I don't know what to do. I know my oldest witnessed my needs not being met for many years and has patterned her way of dealing with people she dosn't understand after that. She reaches out to me to comfort me when she sees im having difficulties, but is callous to her little sister. I try to be fair, and explain that people are differnt and the 7 year old is just more sensitive, not wrong but different. 10 takes it as she's getting in trouble becasue 7 is whining and telling tall tales. Not sure what to do. Im trying to raise them to realize that they are each others greatest allies in the world. That its difficult now, but someday, they will be so thankful to have one another. Im not getting through with that. She continues to witness her dad blow me off when im trying to communicate. Ignore me when im emotional about the loss of our life. How do i express to her that this is not a healhty, normal way to deal with people and difficult situations. Compassion is your best bet. She continues to be rigid and gets more irritated with her little sister with every episode. I feel there is a broken home inside our broken home. Any advice to help heal that is very welcome. Thanks!
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