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2. Do anything they say to please them.
3. If they even look at you jump on them and give them a big kiss.
4. If you go out explain that you are independent and pay for everything.
5. Dont let them move in till second date.
6. Offer to wash their car.
....you got that so far?...lol.
I agree, I like when women aren't intimidated to talk to me, and also, are a bit forward but not in a "too forward" mentality. Also, I will not meet/date someone from a bar, although the last dozen or so women I've met, have been from... bars, clubs, pubs, restaurant/lounges, etc...
Do I have a problem? No, just where my dumb friends always want to go, thus meeting these poeple. Maybe I need to stop giving out my nubmer and/or taking theirs?
I met a woman in a coffee house and she gave me her number, let's me to go vm, I stopped calling afte cpl times.
Another, invites me to meet her and friends out, after getting together for about 4-5 dates, then leaves without saying good bye then sends me an email saying she's scared of what can happen between us so soon, etc. what gives? dating is in my opinion super overrated and too many times ppl you meet are just super flaked out. But then again, I only have a few instances to go off of. I met my ex in the mall shopping...
we all know how that turned out.
so, where's the best place to meet ppl? Connections through friends, online, at the supermarket? When someone finds the answer to that, let me know.
Is that really the way it is now? You can't date more than one person at a time? Does everyone have serial monogamy in dating relationships?
I have my moments but afraid it will take an act of God to get me to move in that direction.
I'm 57 anyway. Companionship is what I miss most, and doubt modern woman thinking allows for that anymore. It seems to be looked at as a codependent weakness if you listen to the media ophats out there.
Dont get me wrong we all have issues, but when I meet you for the first time on a date that is the last thing I want to hear about.
The only place I will listen to that is here!!
These are my expectations and do not necessarily reflect the views of others, so here goes.
* Manners. Where did these go? There's a time and place for letting it all out, but at least have the decency to try to come across as couth. That can come and go as you get more comfortable with someone, but geez.
* It's not a frikken competition. I don't want to know about your ex, and I really don't want to talk about mine. If all I hear is "My ex this" and "My ex that", I'm going to say thank you for the date and probably not call again. Everyone's been through some crap, but again, there's a time and a place for that.
* First impressions. If you spend the whole time while we're out on a date checking your phone or texting other people, then obviously you have done me the courtesy of demonstrating what I have to look forward to if things continue between us. Thanks, buh-bye.
* Old Skool. Guys assume that if you're going out on a date, he should probably pay. Some women want to pay for everything as well. Agree upfront how the tabs are going to be split or paid for, but don't make a big deal out of it.
* Physical intimacy. Don't go trying to score on the first date. This goes for men and women. If there's chemistry, good for you! But if you're serious about a the possiblity of this becomming a long-term thing, keep it in your pants. If you give it up right off the bat, there's not much to be said if things don't work out later on.
ABorden - I agree with everything you said...
If you go to yahoorelationships.com you can find a great article about the "musts" in a dating relationship. There is good information in here.
I have to work on the 'talking about the X' thing simply because most everything I've done in the last 16-17 years included him...
I went to a hockey game with a guy that spent each intermission or the phone with a buddy!!! OK, I get the hint... do you even know my name???
I don't mind paying... I'll admit that I have expense taste... but if the guy wants to do I picnic in a park, that is fine with me, it is quality time I cherish, not how much the event cost...
And in the 'physical' department??? Please remember that I am new at this... 16 years with one person (I know, a rarity in this day and age, but still...) If we both have kids at home... you'll know I am 'there' when I suggest we go away for a weekend together!!! Not the backseat of the car!!!
BTW... I've heard some say they wouldn't want what they'd find at a bar... I was thinking of going to a sports bar to watch the games that are Pay-per-view, and I don't have tickets to... Is that slummy???