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Dating Questions...

LisaACOA
LisaACOA
If you go out on a date and you see from the very begining that you do not want a second date. (1) Do you think it is wrong to insist on paying your own way? I did that recently and I felt very bad but, I did not want to lead him on in any way. He was very interrested and I was extremly turned off. (2) I would like to know what is the best way to handle that?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Bump

I have yet to date - sorry I can't help. Must be fun to date. Been married since I was 19, so I never really did date. Have fun with it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Just be honest. I know it is not easy to tell someone you are not interested, but that is really the kindest thing you can do. Insisting on paying your own way is not a clear enough signal of a lack of interest. You need to say it out loud, but kindly.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think that is a good idea. I think many, but not all guys would take that as a sign, but if he calls again, be kind, but honest and tell him you are going to wait for the right one ;-)
LisaACOA
LisaACOA
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deleted_user
deleted_user
I really like that idea, paying for your own. Way back in the day, I had a date, and did actually feel obligated for a second. I paid for the second and there was never a third. I can't even think of dating now.
LisaACOA
LisaACOA
"Bump"
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ask him politely if he would mind if you went "dutch" and paid for yourself.

If you don't want to go on a date again, just tell him gently that you'd prefer not to. You had a great time, you had fun, but you just weren't clicking with him.

Apologize if you feel like you need to. But you're in the driver's seat on this one.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i can't help you either, but good for you for getting out there. good advice from others though. good luck.
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