Relax ( I know easier said than done)
Talk about her.
Ask about her job, her family, her interests.
People love to talk about themselves.

Relax and it will come back to you. She must be mentally and physically attracted to you also. The playing field is level. Have fun. Be yourself.


(Disclaimer: This coming from a guy who hasnt dated in years...lol)

you are right to avoid the conversation about stbx even if she asks say very little and move on.

thanks. its embarassing that i need to ask for advice on this. but like i said starting all over again is tough.

Talk about what interests you.

Listen to her, and ask questions about what she says.

Try to ask open-ended questions, and stay away from asking things that can be answered with a yes or a no.

Be yourself. And if part of that is being nervous, so be it. Women find that charming to a certain degree; mixed with confidence, they'll realize that you can handle yourself, but you don't have a heart of stone.

There's tons of other advice, but the biggest one is to just have fun.

Have a good time and relax. Being nervous is fine but just be yourself and talk about your interests and ask about hers and the conversation will develop from there.

I could basically cut and paste ABorden's comments.

Be yourself. Thats good advice.

Watch for body language. Trust me.

Listen to what she says as opposed to thinking about what you are going to say next.

Ease into discussion topics that you dont know much about....its SO easy to ask questions about those topics. (shows receptive listening traits and engagement in conversation.....double thumbs up)

Just have fun w it! Listen to her and talk about your passions...something fromt he heart and have fun w it! Good luck I hope it works out for you!:)

My advice is to not have ANY expectations. This will help you relax and be yourself. Let things flow naturally. This is an opportunity to get to know her and for her to get to know you. Be honest and sincere in your conversation ... it goes a long way.

Relax be yourself and be attentive woman like that, I t is hard sometimes not to talk about the stbx, so if you have to just try and keep it to a minimum and have a good time!!!!!

thanks everyone. at least this is getting me out of my head when it comes to the stbx. no expectations and have fun. easy enough. Thanks!!

Don't make this an interview. Ask questions but not like you are interviewing her for a job. Ask like you actually have an interest and then discuss one topic for a while. Asking question after question makes someone feel like they are being interrogated. Keep the conversation light and casual. And have fun! That's what dating is supposed to be all about.