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Damned Anxiety

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The thought of heading back tomorrow is starting to "get" me. This is just not a comfy-cozy thing.

STBX has "thoughts" on what I should be doing, and I know that a fight is coming.

Anyone have problems with the stbx "advising" them on how to Move? I am starting to get a bit shaky...
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If I would have listened to mine I would be in....

....well, It would be Very Hot!
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My ex tried to tell me how everything should be done. That's part of the reason he is the ex! Just try to hang in there and get through it the best you can. If it keeps things more peaceful to pretend you are using his advice, then do that. It worked for me to a point. The rest you just have to tough through. But when you are done it is all you, baby :)

My ex called the other day for help with a college paper he is writing. While on the phone I heard him yelling at either his gf or her son. "Stop looking over my shoulder. I hate it when you do that." It totally reminded me of how happy I was on my own with no one bitching all the time!
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too late, he called and truthfully, I am waivering on some things, I think that he is right...damn him, it was the stbx that I loved...gonna take me a bit to get myself back on that Roll again, now.

Yeah, 3000 miles is the best thing possible.
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Tami I think until he is gone from your life it will be the same record played over and over again. You made the right choice. You think about what is right for you, not him.
Seashells1
Seashells1
Just stay strong. You have lots of people you can get advice from without having to take it from him. He likes to play you and push your buttons. Just remember how he messed with you on the house listing, and tell him to get away from you.
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Last time I moved out, he put my stuff in the garage so I could take it and not go in the house... When we were working on reconciling he would go to MY apartment and would say critical things like, "you need a chair right here" etc... Just keep telling yourself that that is one of the reasons you don't want to be with them and simply say, "I appreciate your interest in my moving" and thank him or something because fighting will only make you more miserable getting to the finish line : )
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Don't get shaky my friend. Just hold your head high and watch those traps he lays. You know him. Anticipate and be prepared mentally.

Stay strong!

Margie
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yep...my stbx actually told me where I should move, that he would HELP me move(which he didn't), where I should work....and then in the next breath he would say...stay out of my business!
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just yes him to death, yep, yep, yep, thanks, yep. and then goodbye.
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