
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

FrmDeb2U
I'm just wondering... does anyone else feel like they are just damaged goods? I have been married to stbx for 20 years... and he was physically and emotionally abusive throughout our marriage. I left him on 10/30/06.
I wonder if I'll ever be able to love again... or if any man can truly love me.. knowing what I've gone through. I thought I was dealing with things better... until recently and now I feel like I'm back down in this black hole again. I feel like I gave away the best part of me.... I don't know if there's anything worth having left.
I wonder if I'll ever be able to love again... or if any man can truly love me.. knowing what I've gone through. I thought I was dealing with things better... until recently and now I feel like I'm back down in this black hole again. I feel like I gave away the best part of me.... I don't know if there's anything worth having left.
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Lisa
abusehurts
I know I am a damaged person. I gave my heart away completely, and it was totally broken. My fears have overwhelmed me to the point that I don't think I could trust what is left of heart to anyone else. My self-esteem was thrown out with the garbage, my passion was sapped from my soul, my happiness was ripped from my mind, and I am left with the hollow shell of a person that I have become. My personal journal (not my DS one, but a private one that I don't share) is actually called my "Faade of Reality."
Even wanting to try seems so futile.
I gave it all away to a selfish, emotionally manipulative bastard. But, I do believe that there are good men out there. I have met a few - guys who talk to me like i'm a person and not a nusance.
We wasted a couple of decades but its not game over, just keep involved in the real world, get out and meet people. They are not all like our STBX's
Don't worry about whether you have anything to share with anyone else. Your soul is still inside you, waiting for you to rediscover it.
It may take some time, and possibly some professional help, but you can and will learn to love yourself.
My therapist and I coined our own expression about how problems can feel fixed and then resurface months or years later feeling just as painful:
"Life (or what ever problem) is like an onion -- it has a lot of layers and makes you cry as you peel them off."
Feel free to message me if you want to talk more.
(((hugs))
Life's Lessons... keep doing 'em til you get em right
I am Damaged-been hearing all about that for a very long time. Maybe, had I laid down and accepted my given role as a Victim, my life would have been easier...
I can't do that. It isn't in my "make up". I have tried. I am a Survivor. I find my Center, then get back up.
You Can Too.
There are things, built into the Core of us, that do not run out. They are renewable resources. We may Feel tapped out. We may appear Finished. But that only lasts for a Season.
Once the Healing starts, and we find our feet...Who we ARE will begin to bubble to the surface again.
Just don't let life make a Victim of you.