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I just wanted to share what happened to me today. I have vented to my journal and texted my girlfriends for support but I also wanted to share with all of you for support.
Ex and I have been sep for 18 months and divorced for 5 months. I have a BF and he has a GF (who WAS my best friend n they lied about their relaionship and let my then 7 year old daughter tell me).
Okay so its my weekend with the kids(9/7/4 yrs old). My ex calls ME this morning and says can he please take the two older kids to the soccer game this weekend as he is the coach and its the last game. Sure I say. I mean I'm not happy about it but Im trying to be the bigger person. So he then says oh and hey can I take out for a quick bite to eat at Wendy's. No big deal he says.
Okay long story short, he lied to me about most of it and had an after soccer season lunch party with his Mother and his GF with presents. No big deal, huh?
On MY weekend and was shifty about it all! I dont feel out of line being upset about the crafty thing he did. If he knew that it was going to be okay with me he never would have lied to get what he wanted. He would have asked me or waited until his weekend with the kids. Or been a man and included me and our other son.
When I could breathe again after finding out, I called him and told him I thought it was inappropriate and out of line to take my kids on my weekend to do that without me knowing. I told him I would like and apology for what he did and that I would never pull that on his weekend. Dont think I'll get one.
The sad thing is-my 7 year old son and I are going to therapy because of the way my son yells at me and treats me with disrespect. Gee, I wonder where he learned that from????? He asked my why wasnt I there?
I'm okay now but I just needed to share my thoughts with you. He did my wrong and wont admit it. He knew it was low but didnt care.
What was his GF thinking? Why does he try to undermine me as their mother at every turn and how can I stop that from happening? What do I say to my kids about the "brainwashing"?
Ex and I have been sep for 18 months and divorced for 5 months. I have a BF and he has a GF (who WAS my best friend n they lied about their relaionship and let my then 7 year old daughter tell me).
Okay so its my weekend with the kids(9/7/4 yrs old). My ex calls ME this morning and says can he please take the two older kids to the soccer game this weekend as he is the coach and its the last game. Sure I say. I mean I'm not happy about it but Im trying to be the bigger person. So he then says oh and hey can I take out for a quick bite to eat at Wendy's. No big deal he says.
Okay long story short, he lied to me about most of it and had an after soccer season lunch party with his Mother and his GF with presents. No big deal, huh?
On MY weekend and was shifty about it all! I dont feel out of line being upset about the crafty thing he did. If he knew that it was going to be okay with me he never would have lied to get what he wanted. He would have asked me or waited until his weekend with the kids. Or been a man and included me and our other son.
When I could breathe again after finding out, I called him and told him I thought it was inappropriate and out of line to take my kids on my weekend to do that without me knowing. I told him I would like and apology for what he did and that I would never pull that on his weekend. Dont think I'll get one.
The sad thing is-my 7 year old son and I are going to therapy because of the way my son yells at me and treats me with disrespect. Gee, I wonder where he learned that from????? He asked my why wasnt I there?
I'm okay now but I just needed to share my thoughts with you. He did my wrong and wont admit it. He knew it was low but didnt care.
What was his GF thinking? Why does he try to undermine me as their mother at every turn and how can I stop that from happening? What do I say to my kids about the "brainwashing"?
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
a few things to consider.. was it a legitmate...after the game function?... if so.. yes.. they did celebrate..mind you...you should demand that you get that Sat back.
Fair is Fair... make plans.. and take the kids away on his next day.. Call him and tell him you have plans.
this is exactly what I did last weekend.. cos my EX convienently calls and says.. but I told you we had plans.. I told you I was taking them....
I am always the easy going.. anything for the kids.. but I realized that I was only getting them for the mommy days.. the domestic lunches, school , homework days.. and I wanted the weekends too. Be selfish...take and see how he feels.
as for your son.. keep up with the counselling.
...my former tenant was a piece of shit.. and his 7 year old acts the same way.. disrespectful to females.. he is overly aggressive at age 6 and has a foul mouth... a single dad with aggression problems and the kid mimics him at such a young age. It is scary.
I should take the kids next week or another day during his time. I wonder what hed do. I am taking them for him on Wed bc he has a class.
He also kept them later than planned but whatever, right? I try to be the bigger person and feel that I come accross as the underdog.
In the end will my kids really see everything I did for them or will they still think their Dad is Mr. wonderful and how he had a party for them?
It was not a team function. It was a him and his GF celebrating with my kids on my weekend. i feel like he shuld have been straight forward about it and done the right thing and brought those kids home. Or included the MOTHER. Not GF. They can celebrate on his time and do whatever they want.