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my stbx said he'd give me primary physical custody if i stayed in Haddam where we live. we , according to him, would have to sell the house because of the outrageous financial situation. so. id have to go to an apartment rather thatn go to my moms to live temporarily with the boys. but that would mean spending money on a rent with cs and having NOTHING left over cause rents are expensive here. they are about 875 to 1200 dollars and stbx stated today he'd be paying me about 260 a month. that is 1040.00 why in my right mind would i pay 1000 for an apartment and have nothing left for other stuff for the children. what do you suggest?
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get your attorney involved ASAP. Why does he want to give his essential parenting rights/time with kids away? Why does he want you to stay in the area then? He'll have to fork over some serious dough for that to happen. Why can't you stay in the house with the kids then? Is the mtge/bills that much more than the apt. prices you've mentioned?
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look at what you wrote. stbx said. according to him,sell the house, you live in an apartment. he is trying to make all the decisions. STOP, how do you feel? what do you want? i don't know your situation, however, my parents are gone now, and i'd jump at the opportunity to go home and be with them. and my kids loved them so much and they were so close. do what is best for you and the boys. best of luck. 0
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I am in the same situation. My STBX split the finance in half and we are each paying 50/50 he makes 2X more than me, and he wants to give me custody but stay in the area, I went to see a laywer and she said yes the bills will be split but depending on each income it could be 60/40 or 70/30 it just depends. The child support each state is different so look up child support in yours. And he can not force you to live where you can not afford it. Just always say and keep in mind you need to do what is best for the kids.
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Hi,that sounds like my x. He wants me to stay in California and he'll give me full custody but only if I stay here. I'm from Chicago. Otherwise he says he'll fight for custody
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my wife left andweare soon to be in mediation i have offered her $ to get out of my business and the real estate but i want primary custody of our girls that i have cared for almost all by myself for last 5 months while she worked on her new relationship. I also offered to take custody with no child support from her so kids can stay in same area.
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