MY STBX took off with my baby and filed for divorce. He is asking for sole custody of my baby. My baby just turned 1 on the 24 and i didn't get to see him..I doubt if the Judge will like it to much

My ex admitted to me and several other people (including most of her family)that I was both father AND mother to our three children. When it came to our divorce and custody, she threatened me and told me she would fight me to the death for sole physical custody of the children. I feel she did it so she could hurt me where it would hurt the most.

Don't be scared, don't be intimidated.
Don't overthink things. Be prepared.

For now these are threats, a way of intimidating you and it is possible that it has to do with money... him not wanting to pay you spousal and child support.

so.. do not panic at this point... be aware of the fact he may file for sole custody... let your lawyer know this.. and then wait and see what HE does.

My Ex threatened me too.. made up a lot of lies and rumours to pple about my inability to parent, to tend to the kids, that he was the breadwinner and would be the better parent. Requested that I have a psychiatric evaluation.
The Judge would not hear any of it.

not saying it will be that way for you... I have 3 girls... but..keep in mind you have been the primary caregiver for a long time probably... and that speaks volumes.
Continue to be a good Mom.

Ginny, I know this is a very scarey time for you. My first husband did this. We went through a custody investigation and mediation and then after he moved on to a new woman, he gave up. Seems she didn't want his children around. Don't allow him to play mind games with the children. Make it clear to the Court that he is doing this and they can put a stop to it.

Ginny, YES, my kids' dad tried to prove me an unfit mother in court during the custody hearing. It did NOT work. So he went into further action. For the first 5 years that we were divorced, I could count on Child Protective Services knocking at my door every 3-6 months with a complaint from him or his friends/family. Like I said, this went on for years. One day, the CPS worker had asked me why he kept doing this. I told him that he is trying to hurt me, as I divorced him because of physical abuse & took the girls with me. She said well, we're going to put a stop to it, as there is NO reason for him to keep doing this for this many years. She also said that there was NO way that he could EVER prove me an unfit mother.

My husband has put in the court papers that I am bi-polar and manic depressive. I told my lawyer when I go to my doctors, I will get a statement saying otherwise. I tell my lawyer everything he has said and done. Right down to the most recent of telling my oldest son that if he continues to want to play with his friends while he is with him, than he (my son) will not be allowed to visit him (stbx) anymore. I thought that was just a horrible thing to say.