I have been married for ten years, most of which I was desperate to have children. My partner and I really wanted children. He was a very closed kind of person, most of any discussion about having a family or how 'we' were doing were always discussed privately with his parents. this frustrated me a lot, but in our culture... it is normal for this kind of beahviour. He recently went away to see his parents in pakistan, this was a year ago and then when he came back he was just different. I then found he had been trying to get re-married in Pakistan. I was devastated but he was blatant and said I want children or else I am leaving, as though it was my fault. We finally got on the waiting list for NHS IVF treatment. but he said, I'm not waiting and left. the worst of it was he ws initially being 'nice' to me. He came over to the house and asked that I sign a piece of paper saying I consent to his second marraige abroad, when i said no, he got very cross. Next thing I know i get a letter from his solicitor accusing me of adultery. I was mortified. when i called him he said I deserved it for not being a dutiful wife and he basically said' this will teach you'
funny thing is at first I just didn't want a divorce at all. The very idea hurt too much. he left and now wants half the house. but because his i didnt agree with his reason for the divorce, I have decided to file for divorce. I am angry, hurt, bitter and very cross. I have caring friends and people but the whole thing is so hard to deal with and I am now living alone. This is a new experience for me... I have never lived alone before. This was my first relationship ever but the humiliation of his accusations and the entire situation has made me way to afraid to ever consider another relationship. In a culture like mine (I'm asain) where divorce is seen as taboo, its really hard to be able to talk to someone who truely understands..... any support or advice is welcome!!