difficult. my situation, i agreed to all, so the judge ordered the paperwork as so. she filled out many papers and if i new there was going to be some disagreement about assets, i would have to have filled out paperwork as well. preliminary decisions are also made with regards to child support and maintenance (if applicable) and the judge could advise since no one is willing to give up an asset, such as a house, that it should be sold and profits is halved to each. some situations could call for most shared assets going to the home of the children (if applicable). i was married for 17 years and my life going forward was based on 15 minutes face time with a judge.

Kind of scarey - I think I'll be facing that soon myself. I'd like to know how it goes for you.... I wish you the best!

Thank you. We have no children and make about the same amount so no child support or maintenance decisions or anything being decided on as going to the home with the children. On my H's paperwork as his reason for our divorce he put down that I had emotional and social issues that I refused to get help for until he found someone more emotionally together. That is total crap as neither the H or the whore are emotionally together and he had no right to be looking while married to me. I told my lawyer about his adultery problems.

Here's the thing - the house is a few houses away from my parents, we can actually see each other's houses. If I didn't live in the house, I'd probably be my H's neighbor and also possibly the neighbor to the whore as she's losing her house or at least I might have to see her sometimes. Would that mean anything in court? That it would cause me such emotional distress?

Every state is diferent. I live in florida and we both had to fill out a finanial statement. If there is any equity inthe value of the house it will most likely need to be split 50 50. My concern woud beif he over valued that asset, if you want to keep the house you will have to pay him his half of the equity, if there is any. Are there any other assest involved car, savings, furniture. Of I were you I would have a list of lianiliites and asseste ready.

I did all of my paperwork in the beginning. He did with his second lawyer soon after hiring him. It might be he just hadn't done any of the parework yet. My lawyer told me we would both have to have the same paperwork filled out.

I'm no expect, but I'd suggest not leaving anything to the last minute with your lawyer. At least speak to him/her about your concerns. At the very least, he/she can tell you what to expect. Even without a lawyer's directive, I'd suggest taking stock of your assets and liabilities, just so you're prepared. What will be interesting is whether or not your document will match that of the stbx.

My mother, who had a terrible divorce, feels to this day - 30+ years later - that she was screwed over by her lawyer. Too many details to get into, but the maritable home was to be assessed as part of the divorce. By the time that was done, he'd let it get so run down, that it's value was neglible, which meant the half of the value given to my mother was also neglible. Just one experience, and one insight.

I can't imagine he'd want the house so close to your parents, but certainly some cash coming from it. A shame really.

Consult your lawyer, just to make sure you've got the t's crossed and i's dotted appropriately.

YES! Mine did not either and I was taking completely off guard! You need to get a list of any and all witnesses,,, list of your financials including assets,, and such,, you attorney should give you everything that you need. If you have children, include their school records!
The answer is YES,, bug your attorney, please, don't be passive,, he/she works for you!
No, no decisions are made at a a preliminary hearing, it is just a starting place for the courts to get an idea at what the understanding are at this time and to see if mediation is going to be required!
Best of luck!

Since Wisconsin is a no-fault state is doesn't matter why you would want the divorce. At the hearing you will need paperwork such as financial disclosure, assets, etc. Contact your attorney first thing Monday morning to get it completed. You will have to list everything you own or owe. If you two do not agree on everything they may order mediation settle it. If you cant it will go to trial and the judge will decide. Try to get it worked out BEFORE it gets to that point. When the judge gets involved it will come down to how good your attorney is and you really don't want the judge to decide what you get. Trust me try to get it worked out.