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My topic has suggested counseling from y'all quite a bit. The suggestion of counseling was brought up by my wife a few times as well and I always agreed to go, however we seemed to then have long talks that then threw the counseling off the front shelf and she hasn't brought it up again. How now do I bring it up and what should I expect when I get there? How long of a first session? Anyone got any counseling advice?
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well my husband and I went to counseling 2 years ago.It worked pretty good.I went first,becuase he was not up for it,then the therapist gave me an appointment for him.On the 3rd appoitment we went togheter. We got good advise and started aplying it and it worked.The trick is, dont stop going, once you get better ,set up appointments mor distant but stay on top of it.
About what you shlud edpect.A couch, mine was like a small living room,very confortable, then each one of you will have the turn to speak. You will get some excersices to practice when you are at home,for example: when you get into a heated argument,one of you will leave and not let it get worse. go for a walk,cool out and then when you are calm ,comeback and find the right moment to discuss what happened.It worked for us.
Good luck and go soon,if you have been talking about it for a while you certanly need it,is no big deal.
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I'd certainly suggest going to the therapist for an individual session (each). Then you each can present your concerns to the therapist (without being judged by your spouse). Then the therapist would know what needs to be addressed in the joint session. Good luck! Even if "couples" therapy doesn't work, continue to go for yourself. It helps to have a "sounding board" .
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