Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Could It? Im still dealing with the death of my best friend and on top of it, my exboyfriend just keeps making life worse. "We werent ever broken up, I just needed space." to "can we have a talk tomorrow?" yeah, what do you think that was about? Wish I could tell him to hit the curb, but I just cant. I want to be with him more than anything! But this tugging back and forth is making me sick and so fuckin depressed! How do I deal with this? What can I say to him? Im scared that if I tell him how bad he is hurting me that he's just going to say "forget it." Which, sometimes I'd like to say, but I know those words will never come out of my mouth. Confused....forever?
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
One thing I have to say is that you are young, and have A LOT of time to deal with things like relationships. I just wish I spent more time in that area when I was your age. So, my advice is to pick yourself up somehow (see below, for example) and get back into the game. You're a very pretty girl and should have no problem finding someone who appreciates you.
I see that you are on some drug treatment for depression, but you show it as not working. Understand that medical treatments for depression affect everyone differently. If one treatment doesn't work, go back to your doctor and try something else. Just note that it could take about 30 days for each one to take full effect, depending on the drug.
And, don't be embarrassed about needing medical depression treatment. From what you went through, it's VERY understandable for you to feel the way you do. I can only imagine if I lost anyone that way. You just need to find the right treatment for you.
As for your ex, he is your ex, right? I am confused on the "we werent broken up..." sentence, but I am guessing it is him going back and forth?
Sounds like you need to take some time for yourself. Yes, easier said then done, and easier to say, just dont focus on him. When he calls, dont listen to the voicemail or pickup the phone, dont read emails from him etc. So if you can do that for yourself to take some time to mourn your friend and get your head together, that is the best advice I can give you.
As for "forever", I dont believe that much last forever, so no, you wont be confused forever. It will be pretty clear, real soon.
Hang in there Amber. You've been through a lot. Do what is going to make it easier on yourself for now.