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coping in first few days of wife leaving home

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My wife recently decided to leave me after only 11 months of marriage. She has said that she has not been happy in the last few months and made the decision to end the relationship. It has been amicable and she has decided that initially she will move in with her mother. I am going away for a few days to stay with friends and when I get back she will have moved out. I have broken down several times since she dropped the bombshell only 24 hours ago but feel deep down that I will eventually deal with this. However, I am very concerned that when I get back to the house and she is gone, the finality of the situation will be too much for me to cope with. How can you cope with this and still function with the routine of daily life such as going to work in the first few days/ weeks of being in the house on your own?
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I am sorry you have this pain but if I can make it through, so can you.
Work...life....chores...things that needed to be done and couldnt put off. Unfortunately I did my first 2 months alone...with no one...then I looked online one day and found DS. After I found DS...everything started to change for the good...on day 1! I didnt realize there were so many others out there who knew what I was feeling...and even gave very good advice.
I can only suggest from my own experience is to have a friend or two you can talk to. It was hard for me cause I had 0....literally zero I could trust. Well since then I now have many....but I will never forget my beginning as it was difficult...mostly cause I never knew about this web site DS. Feel free to read everyones journal.....read and read. It helped me so much and it kept me from dwelling. Cause before I found this site....I was crying every day like 3-4 times...good cry sessions. And I learned not to hold it all inside cause it made it worse once it came out. I looked at it like...it was my sadness leaving my heart. I hope a couple of my words help....its just that reading your question reminded me of my first nights and days alone...and how I wished I would of known about this place..........stay strong brother......it all goes away in time. People said that to me in the beginning....and now I say it to you...cause its true...even though you cant see yourself at that point yet....but I promise you............you will. ((hugs))
Jaine
Do you have one close enough person you can just spend time with. Of course, you have to face yourself alone part of the day too. Just keep looking to Next Year and accept you have to go through all the phases to come out better.
and DS is a pretty good place to help ya for a while