I am so sorry. I remember those first few days they are hard and you will find yourself in shock. My best advice is to get a friend to go over there with you. Speaking of friends, let them know what's going on immediately. They will be there for you and help you through these next few days.
I am sorry you have this pain but if I can make it through, so can you.

I wish I would of asked your question when I first came here. Cause that was me exactly. How was I to function after it was discovered that me and her were over?
Work...life....chores...things that needed to be done and couldnt put off. Unfortunately I did my first 2 months alone...with no one...then I looked online one day and found DS. After I found DS...everything started to change for the good...on day 1! I didnt realize there were so many others out there who knew what I was feeling...and even gave very good advice.
I can only suggest from my own experience is to have a friend or two you can talk to. It was hard for me cause I had 0....literally zero I could trust. Well since then I now have many....but I will never forget my beginning as it was difficult...mostly cause I never knew about this web site DS. Feel free to read everyones journal.....read and read. It helped me so much and it kept me from dwelling. Cause before I found this site....I was crying every day like 3-4 times...good cry sessions. And I learned not to hold it all inside cause it made it worse once it came out. I looked at it like...it was my sadness leaving my heart. I hope a couple of my words help....its just that reading your question reminded me of my first nights and days alone...and how I wished I would of known about this place..........stay strong brother......it all goes away in time. People said that to me in the beginning....and now I say it to you...cause its true...even though you cant see yourself at that point yet....but I promise you............you will. ((hugs))

*MANY HUGS* my heart goes out to you...I remember those first couple days where you walk around in a blur....its tough, the simplest advice is this "put on foot in front of the other" and do what you don't want to do (face people)....eventually you work through the process and begin the stages toward healing. stick close to this site...the friends you make here offer invaluable advice....and many times have offered me their "shoulders" to cry (or vent) on

Friends..mine saved me.

Take it one day at a time. Don't expect too much from yourself. I was in shock for weeks and kept pushing myself to a faster recovery... That did not help. Tell friends and family so you can get immediate support. When you go back to your house, with or without a friend, change the decor a bit (and the routine) so that the house doesn't look like the house minus her... I hope you can find peace soon.

Start reading other people's journal in here, then you will have an idea, of a long painful road that we all travel. It hurts. It will continue to hurt. It will be a struggle on evry emotional level you can think of. Read our journals. I am so sorry .

I'm in the same boat with you.Like everyone has stated Friends, this board, it looks like you are alone but thats not really the case. All the support youneed is here and within yourself.

Doing the mundane day to day stuff is what kept me going. Try not to sit around on your own & dwell on it but the main thing I will say is to go with the pain as it will only come back & bite you when you least expect it. Crying is healthy & a god release. I remember exactly how I felt when I got dumped at the airport when we were about to go on holiday. My heart goes out to you. The age old saying works though - time heals but dont rush it.
Jaine

Get support, counseling, and don't expect anything. Take it one day at a time as there is no fast/easy way around it.

I spent most of my working 'days' with a subordinate and we got the basics done while talking things through. I don't know how I'd have done it otherwise. He was there when I needed him.

Do you have one close enough person you can just spend time with. Of course, you have to face yourself alone part of the day too. Just keep looking to Next Year and accept you have to go through all the phases to come out better.

and DS is a pretty good place to help ya for a while

When my husband left I was in shock, I thought about calling out of work and staying in bed, but I got up and went in and did it one day at a time. When he finally took all of the stuff out of the house and I knew it was over, I did the same, one day at a time. You will cry, you will grieve and you will feel betrayed, but you will survive. My sadness is still very much with me, but I go on. Friends on this site helped me, I read everything I could, I listened to advice, I got books on the subject of divorce, separation, you name it and it helped me. I didn't get involved with alot of friends at first because I wanted to be myself, but after awhile friends and family did help. It is going to be a rocky road, but you will manage, you will get by. Never give in to the feelings of wanting to stay home from work and sulk all day, keep going, like someone said one foot in front of the other. My sadest part of the day is coming home to an empty apartment, but I get my dinner, watch tv and do whatever I need to do for the next day. I felt that having a routine helped. I made it through the toughest days and honestly I mean when I say if I made it you can....Stay Strong we are here for you..........

I think you will find work will become your best friend in the next few monthes. I went as far as getting a second job, worst thing you can do is set at home alone and dwell on it. Keep yourself as busy as you can and block it from your mind as long as you can. From there one day at a time. Good luck bud, it's going to be a rough ride.

When my wife left i found myself not wanting to got to work and face our mutual friends and yet hating to come home to a completely empty nest. I finally took down some of her pictures and that helped a lot erased her pic id on cell phone and i am trying to not have any contact. stay strong

I felt the same way at first, but working kept me busy. I was in shock at first too. I had to process everything and realize that I made the right decision. I am not going to let my stbx stop me from moving forward. I left him after finding out he had been cheating on me. I was with him for 17 years and married 8 of those years. I am glad to be done with him. I deserve better and so do you.