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Controlled Separation?

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Has anyone heard of Controlled Separation and tried it? I have a book by Lee Raffel and me and my husband may go this route? Any comments appreciated.
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Who decides who controls? Once it's rolling all bets are off I would say.
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not a clue, but i would be interested in reading the book.
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Basically it's a separation, but with rules. You both agree on time frame (in our case 3-4 months), agree who moves out, agree how much you see each other and start "dating" each other again.
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We talked about it... I had a book that called it 'trial separation'... the biggest stumbling block was that he wanted to play the field while we were supposedly "working on our marriage"... I didn't know about the OW then, suspected, but had no proof...

He wanted his cake, and all his icing... keeping me on the back burner, still being nice and doing things for him, while he was out boinking whatever he could get his hands on, or it would just alleviate his guilt about OW, then he would have been able to talk openly about her rather than referring to her as his 'colleague's daughter'...
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